I’m disabled, my life is gone—I’ve heard that so often from newly disabled people. Some become trapped in a black hole of thoughts of what used to be, anger of what was lost because of their disability, and then some give up and although they could do things for themselves they instead become overly dependent on others to do almost everything for them.  Although all of the above may be normal at first, you have to break out of the above to move forward and find you have a good future life ahead.