Sometimes, in life we find ourselves verbally lashed out at, gossiped about or harassed, words are used like weapons to wound us/hurt us. Sometimes even our good natures or upbeat spirits are misunderstood or twisted into something so alien to which we actually are, too. Sometimes we give our all to others then before we know it that person we thought of as a good friend backstabs us or conspires against us with someone else. Yet, no matter how we are jumped upon or how often it happens- we have a choice to either be perpetually sore about what happened to us or decide to turn it to our advantage to help us to soar! Become bitter or become better?! How we react determines not just our attitude, yet, also our altitude!Say to yourself 'That is in the past. Now in this new moment, this new present, I am already beginning to change for the better.' ~ Seth
Why do others JUMP upon us in the first place? Jealousy:- They lack a talent or spirit or beauty or even popularity that you have that they want for themselves. Their insecurity/lack of je ne sais quoi is like a niggling ache within them- so they want to crush you, bruise you or silence you, or remove you from the equation in some way so that they can have the attention/limelight instead of you or so they can make themselves feel bigger! “Jealousy - that jumble of secret worship and ostensible aversion.” ~Emile M. Cioran“Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope.” ~Josh BillingsEnvy is thin because it bites but never eats. ~Spanish Proverb Unbalanced:- Unstable or prejudiced or just unfair in one aspect or another.“I'm interested in the fact that the less secure a man is, the more likely he is to have extreme prejudice. “~ Clint Eastwood Machiavellian:- Cunning, double dealing, underhand & cynical."The Machiavellian bully misuses his intelligence to gain success, tame his grandiosity, and charm his victims; he is a dark triad." ~ Bona Pain:- They are defeated as well as defined by their pain. Survivor mindset individuals are a threat to them- they want to silence them. They also have the need to use others as punch bags for their own pains- punish others! They feel that their pains are greater than anyone else’s or other people’s pains are virtually invisible to them as their pains mostly take precedence/centre stage. Egotistic:- Over inflated sense of self, over opinionated, narcissistic, self seeking as well as wanting to be a control freak! Drama seekers:- Some people love drama and to create drama- all in a negative sort of way! Although technically they are an adult they act like are once more back in the junior playground- revelling in being catty and childish. Negativity vampires, too! So, how do you JUMP UP when you have been Jumped Upon?
Joy – Even though your confidence will have taken a jolt, you can rediscover your joy as well as be joyful. You also need to surround yourself with people as well as be in places that ignite your joy. Those who chose to steal your joy will have some of their thunder stolen by seeing your joy, too! Yet, more importantly, you owe it to you as well as to the world to let your light/joy shine!
Understanding- Try to understand why what happened to you occurred in first place. Then, let it go! You cannot always understand it yet you still need to let it go so you can move on! Understand that you are not put on this planet to have horse manure heaped on your head or at your feet by anyone who wants to just because they can, okay, you are worth more than that. Realise that you have rights as well as you deserve to be treated with respect by others. “There are four types of men in this world: 1. The man who knows, and knows that he knows; he is wise, so consult him. 2. The man who knows, but doesn't know that he knows; help him not forget what he knows. 3. The man who knows not, and knows that he knows not; teach him. 4. Finally, there is the man who knows not but pretends that he knows; he is a fool, so avoid him. “~ Gabirol, Ibn Take a day to heal from the lies you've told yourself and the ones that have been told to you. ~ Maya Angelou Motivate- Motivate your good self – create something awesome/gorgeous in the place of something that was once ghastly- turn the disadvantage into an advantage- make the minus into a big beautiful plus!! · Don't' let the low times keep you down. Learn from them and reach for the high times." - David Wiemers.
Positive Mental Attitude(PMA)- Focus on all your blessings, all your strengths plus all the encouragement you receive from others.Surround yourself with those you care/true friends.Hold your head up high! Walk tall. Use Positive Affirmations Unbroken- Be undaunted in spirit. Do not let anyone or any thought disturb you or take away your peace!“Hanging on to resentments is letting someone you despise live rent free in your head.”- Ann Landers “When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities, remember things could be worse- you could be them.”- unknown Pride- Have courage, boldness, spirit, passion and honour yourself and keep respectful at all times- respect to self and respect to others. Like a pride of lions- keep in a pack that support you as well as uplift you- be in the company of those who genuinely have your best interests at heart. “Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OKAY, and it doesn’t mean that person should be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain and are ready to let it go!”- Jenny1978 “Never regret anything that you have been through, because only with those trials will you become a better person the next day. “- Crystal Hunt “Something opens our wings.Something makes boredom and hurt disappear.Someone fills the cup in front of usWe taste only sacredness”~Rumi Jump Up- ClaritaJust ignore all negative jousting jibes Joke it off- be light like the fragrance of jasmine! Unwind with all kinds of pleasant distractionsUntil all knots are fully untiedUgly words transformed into beautiful ultra-marine Muster up the courage to create some magicMake it so that humour is your daily medicineProgress one small step at a time with Zen like patiencePress pause when anyone tries to press your buttonsPause for pieces of peace- be like a mosaic sitting pretty Untie from anyone or any place toxic- set this flotsam looseUnite with kindred spirits- keep them close Use your talents to create something beautiful or serendipitous Pass like a baton forward random acts of kindness Please “rub it out then draw a flower” Push ahead for Patchouli peace “The wings of hope carry us, soaring high above the driving winds of life.”- Ana Jacob Above article written by myself - have been jumped upon myself recently as had hurtful unkind words said to me as well as untrue words printed about this batgirl ,yet, chose to JUMP UP from this situation, to become better not bitter, so wanted to encourage you all here to do the same :-)! The hurt has inspired me to write this article as well as to be more creative as well as more kind overall- it has made me stronger!! Sometimes it is good to know whom your true friends are, too. Every single minus that happens to us can be turned into a plus, truly! Warmest wishes to you all :-), Clarita:-)
- "Square your shoulders to the world, be not the kind to quit; It's not the load that weighs your down but the way you carry it." - Anonymous.