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buhlir926
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Member Since 12/06/2007 10:12:25
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Last Updated 05/14/2008 08:09:17
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green_ribbon.gifGreen Ribbon 02/19/2008I wear this ribbon for the man that I love that was my husband for almost 14 years. He was the best husband and father until bipolar disorder took him away from us.
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Gender: Female
Birthdate: 09/26/1967
City: Northwest Suburban Chicago
State: Illinois
Occupation: Banker
A little about me: I have been married for 14 years and with my husband for 21 years since we were 19 years old. We have two wonderful boys. My husband has been out of work on and off for 5 years and was diagnosed this past August as Bipolar. This followed misdiagnosis after misdiagnosis by his doctors. He was prescribed medications to treat ADHD that caused him to suffer from what his psychiatrist described a medication induced nervous breakdown in July of 2007 that caused him to move out of our home. His mental physical and mental condition worsened. He convinced himself that he no longer loved me and wanted to start a new life. He eventually decided to have an affair with someone that he met at the YMCA while working part time as a handyman. He never consumated the relationship. I was able to get him to come home and to get help from a psychiatrist. He is on lamictal and was recently put on Welbutrin after lapsing back into depression after losing his part-time maintenance job. We have gotten along and have had a good relationship as husband and wife and tried to put that part of our life behind us but he has suffered disappointment after disappointment with employment. He has again convinced himself that he is not in love with me and needs to move out. I have read books and have tried everything to convince him that this is all wrong. I don't know what to do now other than to just let him go. The man that I know and love would never, ever do something like this to his family at Christmas so I know that something is wrong. His doctor doesn't talk to me. I am lost and don't know what I am supposed to do. Can anybody help me?
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CynthiaBuhler gave me a Hug
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05/22/2008 00:07:17

How are things going? Your last post said you had new locks on your doors...hope you are all still feeling safer...I can't immagine how hard this must be. I have gotten some good closure lately with my ex. Got some things confirmed about his affair, lying etc. and sent him a letter confronting him and letting him know how he has handled everything has been hurtful to me and our daughter...says I'm delusional and threw it all back at me...same old, same old....Ha! Anyway I did what I needed to do for a change. I am still busy with me Mom's estate issues...some days a full-time job. Hope to get another one of those soon, also.
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Gypsy gave me a Prayer
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05/14/2008 19:42:53

Hi!!! It's nice to see you back. May god carry you through this. I am here for you, anytime you need a friend.

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05/14/2008 09:27:25

Wow, you are ging through A LOT right now! I can't believe how terribl he is acting. Divorce is hard enough, and this behavior must be making it a hundred times worse. When you said your kids didn't want you to give him another chance, that right there says how bad it really is. Kids ususally want ther parents to stay together. I am sorry you are going through all this! Well, at least it sound like the nightmare will be over for you and you can stat anew. I give you credit for hanging in there. Don't worry about your comment, in my opinion it sounds like you were holding back! lol Well I wish you all the best and I'm around if you ever need to vent!

norma gave me a Hug
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05/06/2008 00:08:42

Hi, I have read your posts since I joined the forum...you are a brave and strong woman...here is a hug...

sallie gave me a Salute
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04/21/2008 23:54:46

To you for doing your best to make sense out of crazy behavior. I hope things work out for you and your boys, and your husband too.

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Bipolar Support Group06 December 2007
Bipolar Type II Support Group21 December 2007
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