at100
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| Member Since | 07/31/2010 11:02 AM |
| Last Online | 05/22/2013 12:49 AM |
| A little about me: | Hello everyone, I am a caregiver and supporter to my wife who has OCD. My wife's OCD became sever a few months postpartum. At this point she does not leave our home, except on very rare occasions (threshold crossing). My wife's OCD causes her to try to engage me in many of her rituals, which I find frustrating and totally depressing. I feel that my life is out of control due to this illness. Her OCD is trying to control everything (even how and when I get dressed or undressed). The saddest I feel is when I notice it expanding to take over more and more aspects of our lives. My wife is undergoing treatment, thankfully, but so far the OCD is winning. We've made a decision to stay away from meds, because she is still nursing. But we have tried alternatives such as Homeopathy (for several months), hypnosis, and psychotherapy to no avail. In that time, I have read loads of books on the subject, or relating to it, and have learned a lot, trying to figure out a way to make our lives a little better, without having to result to SSRIs which would not necessarily make our lives better (side-effects, dependency, etc.). I know many of the scientific aspects of the alternative approaches (as a result of my study), so if you're interested, feel free to ask. We are still on a long and bumpy road here. In the meantime, as the caregiver, this has taken a great toll on me. I've lost weight, I neglect myself, I don't sleep much, and I'm in pain every time my wife goes through an anxiety attack - a pain which I can not (and do not want to) show her, while she's in it. My work keeps me focused, and gives me a chance to be away from home for a few hours (while my child is in daycare). My wife stays at home and works from home. But all these emotions and frustrations are bottled up in me and are affecting my own mental state. My frustration turned into anger bursts that usually leave something in the home damaged or broken. That's when I realized that I can't do it all, that I've reached my limit, and that I need help and urgently. I started looking for a therapist for myself (still looking), and look for a support group where I can share what I feel with others in my position, others who would be capable of understanding me and the predicament I'm in. I've received a lot of encouragements on this site, and I appreciate it a lot. It means a lot to me, and gives me hope. Ever since joining here, I've been feeling more positive than I've felt in months. Thank you all. |
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 | Hey everybody.. just passing by to wish you a lovely and OCD free day... remember one day at a time.. it takes small stepts to reach your goal :) .. good luck, hugs! |
| May your Easter be filled with Love. After all love is truly the greatest gift of all. Love you Lots, Viv |
| It is almost Midnight here in Tn. I was out at doctors all day so I did not get to write all you special people separately. I don't usually do group hugs but it is the only way I can get my Valentine Day wish out for each of you in time: I wish for you Joy I wish for you Peace I wish for you Happiness I wish for you Hope And above all of these: I wish you Love which is the greatest gift of all! Blessings and Love all my dear one's! |
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Life of a support person for OCD spouse
Life of a support person for OCD spouse
Life of a support person for OCD spouse
| Title | Date | Views | Comments |
| Secondary-benefits | 08/22/2010 | 360 | 1 |
| Homeopathy | 08/21/2010 | 131 | 0 |
| OCD, self-love? | 08/18/2010 | 316 | 1 |
| Book: Virus of the Mind | 08/17/2010 | 262 | 1 |
| Book: Biology of Belief | 08/15/2010 | 183 | 0 |
| Books, Books, Books... | 08/15/2010 | 98 | 0 |
| Numerology and the bloody clock | 08/14/2010 | 512 | 2 |
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I started discussions in the following health topics:
Obsessions, OCD caregiver, OCD caregiver support, OCD treatments, Treatment.
Obsessions, OCD caregiver, OCD caregiver support, OCD treatments, Treatment.
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