Mary2009
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| Rank | Member |
| Online Status | OFFLINE |
| Member Since | 11/06/2009 03:21 PM |
| Last Online | 03/19/2011 02:06 PM |
| Gender: | Female |
| City: | Orlando |
| State: | Florida |
| A little about me: | My husband left me a week before our fourth anniversary. He was diagnosed with a severe panic disorder with agoraphobia in May and put on Pexeva, an anti-depressant. By the end of October, he said I had been emotionally abusing him since we were married and I am co-dependent. When he started telling me how bad I was, I just took it and agreed with everything. In hindsight, this happened twice before but both times, I challenged what he said. The last time was what lead him to the doctor that diagnosed the agoraphobia. It was a week before he left. He was sleeping very little, acting like I was a “buddy” and very happy. He agreed to go to counseling “for me and my serious issues”. The counseling was a disaster with him bring up things that I never knew where a problem. When the counselor challenged his take on things, he said it didn't matter, it was over. I told him I had looked at his phone and found an inappropriate text to a women. He was furious. He packed his car that night, took one of our cats and slept in his father's vacant home. The next day, he quit his job of three years, with about 1 hour notice. He stopped by the house to pick up a few things he left, hit the road and drove 24 hours to his Mom's. That was after at least 3 days of little sleep. It was then that I started to suspect manic behavior. I spoke with his step mom and found out his grandmother and aunt on his father's side both have bipolar disorder. After a lot of research and talking to co-workers (including several doctors and nurses, we work in health care), I believe he is bipolar. He refuses to discuss his mental health with me. I have informed his family about his mental health history, which goes back longer than I have detailed here but his Mother told me that he is fine since he fled a domestic violence situation. Screamed at me that he's not manic and I'm being vindictive. My husband had always said she was a Narcissist and boy did I see it that day. Not to mention the same type of behavior my husband was displaying when he left. No one else in him family is in contact with me. For me, as it turns out, I was 100% co-dependent and had every caregiver burn out symptoms. I'm trying to take care of myself emotionally, physically and financially. I am in therapy and on medication and have started volunteer work. While I will continue to learn as much as I can about BP Disorder in the hopes that I will get another chance to speak to my husband someday. But I am moving on alone as best I can. Things that have helped me the most: Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder by Julie Fast http://www.juliefast.com/ The Bipolar Handbook by Wes Burgess http://www.wesburgess.yourmd.com/ What goes up...Surviving the manic episode of a loved one by Judy Eron http://www.judyeron.com/excerpts.html |
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 | Happiest Father's Day to all our dads. Here are some quotes for you. :) "I want my son to wear a helmet 24 hours a day." ~Will Arnett "When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years." ~Mark Twain "It is admirable for a father to take his son fishing, but there is a special place in heaven for the father who takes his daughter shopping." ~John Sinor (((BIG BEAR HUGS))) -Sarah |
| Happy Father's Day to all the dads in the group! To all the rest, I hope that if your dad was a good one, you let him know today. |
| I hope something makes you smile today. |
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