Hey there FreeMomma! First of all, welcome to our group! I am so happy you have reached out for some help and encouragement. Second, congrats on your newest addition. How many other kids do you have? Their ages?
I am very glad you are seeing a p.t. and that she has suggested the dialator and you have followed her instructions. I would also invest in the book/workbook set Completely Overcome Vaginismus (www.vaginismus.com). I am sorry that your rough labor brought this on but I am confident you will get better! I have heard of woman getting it through labor.
Dinner: 1 word, crockpot!! Toss in frozen boneless/skinless chicken breasts and pour bbq sauce, cream of chicken soup, italian dressing, ranch dressing, or etc. Cook all day. At dinner time, steam some brocolli or green beans in the microwave and make a pot of rice or instant mashed potatoes. 15 minutes at a time, you'll have dinner!
You can do roast beef, round steak, pork loin, turkey tenderloin with different sauces and the same type veggie/side routine.
Housework: My Dad told me once "You would rather be happy than have a perfect house" and I live by that. My house is picked up but I don't vacuum more than once a week (and my husband does it), my kids are old enough to clean the bathroom (I do check behind but don't have to), run one load of laundry a day, things like that.
Okay, so, speaking of dinner, I need to go check on mine! Let me know if I can help in any way! You can send me a pm or post here.
By the way, I am pregnant and have a scheduled c-section on Oct. 24th so if I don't get back in touch with you, that's why!
SO MANY QUESTIONS