Teen Pregnancy Support Group

I'm wondering for really advice and your view on these situations?

Well, one girl is 18 pregnant and in high school. She finds out she's pregnant at around 4 to 5 weeks. She's just come from a violent relationship with her boyfriend. He beat her they broke up yhey had charges on both of each other... She is in high school senior and popular... She doesn't think her friends would do anything but turn violently against her... Her parents are supportive she has a small job. She comes from an upper middle class family. And that's pretty stable... But her exboyfriend is really a mess mentally unstable very poor and from a broken home... He hates her. She does want the baby. She leans herself pro-life except in extreme cases.... But the pregnant was unplanned and not very wanted... Does it seem possibble she can parent? Does it seem like anything she can productivel parent? Or would adoption or abortion be easier?

then there's not much later her sister... She's 15 and 16 in 2 weeks. She just finds out she's pregnant. Weeks before she had a crush on this guy she was mutual friends... He doesn't like her back. But one nigt she was out at a party... She had 2 shots and she really fell terribly drunk and he ends up driving her home. They end up having sex. She thought they could be fwbs but he ignores her mostly. She didn't know he had a gf. He was planning to move too. She finds out she's pregnant. She tells him and he tells her he has a gf and moving and she should get rid of it he wanted nothing to do with it and he doesn't even think it's his. Bit he's the only possibility. She tells her bff who assumes she's getting an abortion... Her parents don't want to handle this and demand her to get an abortion. She thinks abortion is better for her future. And that she may not be able to give her baby what she'd want it to have at this stage in life but she wishes she could be a mom and has fallen in love much even though she's only 4 to 5 weeks. She wants to parent to be happy for the beginning life of her child but everyone is so negative.. She feels like no one sides with her... Anyway she doesn't want adoption though. So does parenting seem at all possible? Or like abortion?

I think the first situation is kind of confusing you say she wants the baby and then say she doesn't want it. If she wanted to keep the baby then I think that would be possible with a supportive family and some income. It would no doubt be hard without help from the father but its been done. Now if she doesn't want the baby then I think adoption would be a better option for her. I personally do not like abortion unless it is an extreme case.

In the second situation I still don't think its impossible to parent I think her parents would come around because my mom acted in a similar way and I chose to keep my son anyway and she came around. She is young though and I can understand her thinking it would be too much and it very well may be too much for her to handle, but she could always give the baby up for adoption after birth if it got too hard. Even if thats not something she would want to do I don't think killing the baby would make her feel any better especially is she is already attached to the baby.

Like I said this is my opinion and I think that adoption is better than an abortion better to give the baby to someone who will love that baby and can't have children of their own than to have an abortion. I dont judge people who do have abortions because that is their right to choose it is their baby not mine but myself personally I could never go through with it.

thanks

Your welcome if you need an advice you can message me anytime.

I'm actually the second girl I really am influenced by my sister though

Well in the end you need to make your decision based on what you want and what you think is best for you and the baby. I understand leaning towards abortion because at first I did when my mom was saying you need to have an abortion you can't be a mother now etc. When you don't have a lot of support making a choice can be hard. For me I realized that I couldn't go through an abortion and I knew I couldn't give my baby away so I decided I would keep the baby. But like I said this is your baby and your choice. Don't make your decision based on what the baby's dad wants or your parents want or anyone else because this is a decision that is going to effect you.

You need to decide what's best for you. My parents tried to talk me into abortion and then adoption, but I knew I had to figure things out for myself. Talk to a counselor from planned parenthood. You're going to continue to be farther along in your pregnancy and if you're keeping it you need to see a doctor and get on prenatal vitamins as soon as possible! Take care of yourself and take care of the baby inside you if you decide against abortion.

there's no pp arounf my area but you're right I do feel like I want to make an independent choice....

I don't really feel I want go through one either......

things have changed for both of us since we found out about our pregnancies really but I'm only a week since...

You're only a week since what?