Teen Pregnancy Support Group

so im looking for a job even though im due in april. Jon and i are looking to move into our own apartment because neither of us wanted to live with our parents when we had kids.. ( it seems really unfair to parents no matter how supportive and offering they are. ) but now jon wants me to strictly focus on school and the baby and let him handle being the bread winner.

but ive always been the type to never depend on anyone else and find my own way around, so when he said that i was kind of disappointed. i dont knwo what to do. cause i wouldnt mind being a stay at home mom but then i dont want to be the type to have to ask him for everything. ( which is another thing i dont like about not having a job, if i wanted anything id have to ask him for it.) he said he wouldnt mind if i took a job in the summer but i dont want to work summer jobs for the next 18 years of my life while my baby grows up it seems unethical for a person. :? anyone else feel the same way? any suggestions on what to do?

If you could work, I definitely think you should Babies are expensive, and there is no such thing as too much money I wish I could work, I'm a stay at home mom at the moment because we don't have anyone else to watch Emuna, and we can't wrong a schedule are Kyle's job and school so I need to be home with her. I hate it, because anytime I need ANYTHING I have to ask him, or go without it until we go somewhere together and it's something that really embarrasses me and makes me feel worthless. It's tough though because no one will really hire a pregnant girl, and when you have a baby at home you need someone watching them 24/7, so if someone can't promise to watch her X amount of hours on X days, you can't work--it is tough, but if you could I would.

And didn't he just tell you a little while ago when you first found out you were pregnant that he would take the dads place?

I agree with Lir. If you can be independent be independent...babies arent cheap and we all know how quickly people can change their minds or a relationship can go south. Even if it turns out he really can cover most of everything and wants to you can save for the future. Maybe im a bit paranoid but if you are completely dependent on someone they call the shots.

yeah if you guys can both work and afford someone to watch the baby, that's the best way to go. i didn't work until jake was about 5 months old and i was going crazy staying in the house all the time! but if you decide you'd like to be home for a while, nothing is permanent and it certainly doesn't have to be that way for the next 18 years!

I agree with Lir. Let me tell you it's really hard when only one of the parents are working. James (my husband) is the only one working right now and it's very hard on us. We barely have money to spend on diapers when Paul needs them and I really miss working. I actually might be going back to work after Wednesday when I find a job, if my mother-in-law can help us watch Paul.

yeah he said hed be here. and i trust him. he says he wants to spoil me rotten anyways which also irrks me. i hate people buying me things. But i highly doubt im going to find a job right now anyways. so i guess ill put my focus on school for now and i already have a summer job lined up ill just miss the opening i guess. ( i love caroles. its a custard stand and its amazing. )

OK, just be careful... a lot of girls on here unfortunately trusted and ended up in not the best situation.

i know. im still sketchy about it, dont worry. but i have my mom if things dont work out she said she would help.

yeah i'm super late on this but i agree with lir, any extra money is great when you're a mom, and i love it when i an feel independant which isn't very often unfortunately

well no one is calling me back now D'= so i think im just going to go through school and go for my emt cert and apply for a job somewhere close cause we all know we could use more EMTs. so yaah. ( maybe after i have the baby ill wait a couple months and go for some part time work, cause i wont be able to life people my weight or more when im pregnant so afterwards.