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my sons sperm donor is out of my house for good! he tried to come home last night thinking i would be asleep well i wasnt i was packing his stuff up for him. and i told him to leave. so he left and now hes having people call my house harassing me harassing my dad. and i have a feeling im gunna get a visit or two at work tonight. i get to work with him. but i decided that im not going to name him as the father on the birth certificate.. so he wont have anyright to my son. i just wont get child support. but as long as my son isnt around him or those people im fine with that.

Good for you! That takes a lot of strength and I'm really proud of you. It's hard to tell the father of your baby, someone you have a history with to leave. Either way I'm sure the next couple days will be a bit tough, but it sounds like you have it under control. Good job! Remember though that your safety and the safety of your family is most important so if the harassing escalates, or it's not stopping CALL THE POLICE.

Good for you!

I'm so proud of you. Like Lir said if the harassing gets to much to handle or gets out of control call the police for the safety of you and your family.

well, not naming him on the birth certificate doesn't get rid of his rights. he does have all of the rights that we do. just be careful because a lot of judges don't take sides with the mother if they were trying to keep the father from their child. i know it's crappy but i don't want him to take you to court and him to end up with more custody than you because you were trying to do the right thing. that would just be terrible!

Untill the father is on the birth certificate he doesn't have any rights to the baby at all. He has to go through a paternaty test that the courts order which costs money and put in an order for joint custody or full custody whatever it is that he is going to want before the father has ANY rights to the child. Untill that happens hes a nothing in the childs life at all. Its true judges will favor dads in some cases but they also have to look into what the father has done or tried to do in the childs life to be considered for any sort of rights.

Alicia

yes, but you cannot keep a father from being on the birth certificate. it's a very simple test and then they have all the rights that you have. and most judges won't appreciate that you were trying to keep him from being a father. not that i don't understand, but it might make more trouble then it's worth.

Currently, I am going through, trying to get him OFF the birth certificate, so he has no parental rights. He doesnt do anything for my son. Its good if you make the decision BEFORE his name actually goes on it. Because now its going to be a big battle. Good for you for your decision it takes a lot of guts. & I feel the same way i dont want him to have any right to my son, and im okay with not getting child support.

My mom was like that with me and my sister's biological dad. She didn't want anything to do with him and he doesn't pay child support. She doesn't take him to court over it because she doesn't want to even be in the same room as him. He would hit her when me and my sister where babies and she left him when I was 2 and my sister was 1.

Oh gosh Heather, that is terrible! I'm glad your mom was strong and did that and you didn't have to stay in that situation for too long.