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09/01/2010 05:51 PM

College stress

mustangs4life
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Please I need help I'm a college student at Shippensburg University and need advice on how to deal with the stress of college.
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09/01/2010 07:24 PM
davesprettylady

Does your school have a counseling center? Most schools (including mine) offer free counseling to their students. We also have a "wellness center" that offers yoga and meditation classes, and workshops to help deal with stress. Most schools have something in place to help students cope with the stress of college. Find out what resources your school offers.

The best advice I can give you is to stay on top of your work. Once you fall behind, its super hard to catch up. Also, do the reading assigned. Most Professors assign reading for a reason, it will help you, it also means less studing during finals week. I find that if I keep up with the reading and take good notes, I have to study very little when finals role around because I already understand the material. It leaves more time for projects, and relaxation.

What exactly about college is stressing you out the most?


09/03/2010 11:36 AM
Peace4Rach
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College is stressful. I remember it was for me too. I agree checking into maybe seeing if you can find a counselor or therapist to talk to. Some colleges have support people you may be able to find out about what services they may have. Best wishes, know it's hard. Rachele

09/03/2010 08:13 PM
Peace4Rach
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I remember those college days of books and papers, the workload and sitting in classes that were required and not necessarily interesting. I remember putting so much effort into it, that I put off having kids till I finished college. But in the end it's all worth it. Oh yeah, chocolate and coffee usually did the job. Finding a few classmates to talk to about the work or if just for support was helpful for me. The best part was graduating and being handed that diploma. Hang in there. Rachele

Post edited by: Peace4Rach, at: 09/03/2010 08:14 PM


09/03/2010 10:20 PM
saymelyn
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1. Most Importantly: Don't Stress About Being Stressed

This may seem ridiculous at first, but it is listed first for a reason: when you're feeling stressed, you feel like you're on edge and everything is barely being held together. Don't beat yourself up too badly about it! It's all normal, and the best way to handle stress is to not get more stressed about . . . being stressed. If you're stressed out, admit it and figure out how to handle it. Focusing on it will only make things seem worse.

2. Get Some Sleep

Being in college means your sleep schedule is, most likely, far from ideal. Getting more sleep can help your mind refocus, recharge, and rebalance. This can mean a quick nap, a night when you go to bed early, or a promise to yourself to stick with a regular sleep schedule. Sometimes, one good night's sleep can be all you need to hit the ground running amidst a stressful time.

3. Get Some Food

Similar to your sleep habits, your eating habits may have gone by the wayside when you started school. Think about what -- and when -- you've eaten over the past few days. You may think your stress is psychological, but you could also be feeling physical stress (and the "Freshman 15"Wink if you're not fueling your body appropriately. Go eat something balanced and healthy: fruits and veggies, whole grains, protein. Make your mama proud with what you choose for dinner tonight! Lastly, if your meal plan itself is one more thing making you stressed, learn how to pick a plan that's right for you.

4. Get Some Exercise

You may think that if you don't have the time to sleep and eat properly, you definitely don't have the time to exercise. Fair enough, but if you're feeling stressed, it may be that you need to squeeze it in somehow. Exercise doesn't necessarily have to involve a 2-hour, exhausting workout at the campus gym. It can mean a relaxing, 30-minute walk while listening to your favorite music. In fact, in a little over an hour, you can 1) walk 15 minutes to your favorite off-campus restaurant, 2) eat a quick and healthy meal, 3) walk back, and 4) take a power nap. Imagine how much better you'll feel!

5. Get Some Quiet Time

Take one moment and think: when was the last time you had some quality, quiet time alone? Personal space for students in college rarely exists. You may share your room, your bathroom, your classrooms, your dining hall, the gym, the bookstore, the library, and anywhere else you go during an average day. Finding a few moments of peace and quiet - with no cell phone, roommates, or crowds - might be just what you need. Stepping out from the crazy college environment for a few minutes can do wonders for reducing your stress.

6. Get Some Social Time

Have you been working on that English paper for 3 days straight? Can you even see what you're writing anymore for your Chemistry lab? You could be stressed because you're being too focused on getting things done. Don't forget that your brain is like a muscle, and even it needs a break every once in a while! Take a break and see a movie. Grab some friends and go out dancing. Hop a bus and hang out downtown for a few hours. Having a social life is an important part of your college experience, so don't be afraid to keep it in the picture when you're stressed. It could be when you need it most!

7. Get Some Fun

You may be stressed about one particular thing: a final paper due Monday, a class presentation due Thursday. You basically just need to sit down and plow through it. If this is the case, try to figure out how to make it a little more fun and enjoyable. Is everyone writing final papers? Agree to work together in your room for 2 hours and then order pizza together for dinner. Do a lot of your classmates have huge presentations to put together? See if you can reserve a classroom or room in the library where you can all work together and share supplies. You may just lower everyone's stress level.

8. Get Some Distance

You may be handling your own problems and trying to help others around you. While this can be nice for them, check in and be honest with yourself about how your helpful demeanor may be causing more stress in your life. It's okay to take a step back and focus on yourself for a little while, especially if you are stressed and your academics are at risk. After all, how can you keep helping others if you're not even in a state to help yourself? Figure out which things are causing you the most stress and how you can take a step back from each. And then, most importantly, take that step.

9. Get a Little Help

It can be hard to ask for help, and unless your friends are psychic, they may not know how stressed out you are. Most college students are going through the same things at the same thing, so don't feel silly if you need to just vent for 30 minutes over coffee with a friend. It may help you process out what you need to do, and help you realize that the things you are so stressed about are actually pretty manageable. If you're afraid of dumping too much on a friend, most colleges have counseling centers specifically for their students. Don't be afraid to make an appointment if you think it will help.

10. Get Some Perspective

College life can be overwhelming. You want to hang out with your friends, join clubs, explore off campus, join a fraternity or sorority, and be involved in the campus newspaper. It can sometimes feel like there aren't enough hours in the day . . . because there aren't. There's only so much any person can handle, but you need to remember the reason why you're in school: academics. No matter how exciting your co-curricular life can be, you won't be able to enjoy any of it if you don't pass your classes. Make sure to keep your eye on the prize and then head out and change the world! I hope some of this helps...


09/05/2010 02:10 PM
mindyc
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Great advice, Jamie! I am drowning in a master's program and needed to read this. Mustangs4life, I may not have advice to give, but I am right there with you. College is a stressful time, but we just have to keep reminding ourselves that it is a temporary stressor and we WILL get through it. We are here to help you through it!!

09/08/2010 05:58 AM
Peace4Rach
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College was a stressful time for me too. Year after year and going through a Masters Program. Luckily I did not have children at that time or would have been alot harder to get through. You have alot on your plate Mindy, with working and your kids. I think it's a matter of finding some way to balance that hectic schedule. You're on overload. Are their any resources available at school or you work. Do you get any time off from work or have anyone to help you with the kids, so you can get your studies done. If it gets too much, you may want to consider taking less of a course load. Hang in there. Rach

09/27/2010 05:31 PM
mindyc
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Unfortunately, my plate is overflowing right now. I am in a cohort, so the classes have been decided for us - we have to take two each semester at the same exact time. It is killing me, seriously. I have aged so much in two years and I just hate it so much. Life is unmanageable. My husband is so wonderful and takes care of the house and kids a lot so I can get work done, but it's still almost impossible to get everything done. The house, the kids, the hubby, new first graders, new programs, master's program from hell, fibro, you name it. Oh, and yeah, a defense attorney came to my school to subpoena the custodian, my assistant, and me about something that happened at our school last year!!! No, I am not in trouble. But I will say that it involves a Christmas party, a ferret (yes a furry little white animal), a Camaro, and some nutty folks. No, I CANNOT make this stuff up! I told my mom that it isn't a Christmas party at my school until someone gets arrested. How true. SOOOO, I have to sit in court all day long and THEN go back to school from 3:30 to 9:30 in the evening for Parent/Teacher conferences. Yay me!!! Sorry, but I did have to vent so my head wouldn't fly off and go spinning around the room!! Wink

10/01/2010 07:59 AM
Peace4Rach
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Hi Mindy, Wow I feel so bad for you. That's so much to deal with right now. Wow that stinks about the the the court thing with work. Yikes, a feret involved! It sounds like some story but obviously got out of hand. I hope it gets worked and doesn't put any more undo stress upon you. Hugs, Rachele

10/10/2010 03:44 PM
mindyc
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Yay!! The attorney called the day before we were supposed to go to court and told my assistant and me to disregard the subpoena!!! We were THRILLED!!! I am sorry I am not on here as much as I want to be - - - literally DROWNING in homework. I swear, it's like my two professors think we have absolutely nothing to do except homework, useless projects, and tests. I think pretty soon the cohort is going to get together and complain about the workload although it's pretty likely they won't do a thing to help. Oh well. At least I didn't have to go to court!! Wink
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