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My fiance and I have lived together about 2 yrs in July. We each have two children and although they get along just fine there are issues erupting and disrupting our home. A five yr old who has issues with me(mother role)who gives nasty challenging looks and attitudes, and she is strongwilled(part time here 10 days a month) I used to watch her when I did daycare, and she was never like this, now, she rejects and challenges me to the point it is driving a wedge between me and him. There is stress and conflict daily it seems. Her older sister 12, accepts me fine. No probs. I am learning much about how step families are nothing like the biofamilies and they function very differently and there is much tailoring a couple has to do to determine parenting roles, expectations on the relationship and etc... This is all new to me, so my question is: What works for you as far as family structuring? Do you parent only your own children and have a friend role with your step kids? How do you handle equality? Is it even and straight laced for all the kids or does each child deserve their own unique rights within the framework of the home? When you disagree with each other, what steps do you take to resolve it? Do you each have a default mode within which you allow the other person to guide their biological children as they see fit, even if it deviates from the "whole family"role? Thanks for your input- |
