Spouses of Bipolar in Active Relationships

Thank you both. Yes, I have read the thread. I get it. I get what I need to do. I am getting better at it, but there is so much hurt and maybe even more than that an immense amount of frustration that sometimes it all comes spewing out. Most of the time I just avoid him when he is in a mood. I am the type of person who wants resolution so it is hard for me to just let things go, but I am working on it. Will try to keep the end goal in mind from here on out. I was just particularly frustrated this weekend. I think we need to downsize our lives. Our home, business, children's activities, etc. were built around a two parent household. Now that he is not able to help I find myself feeling so terribly overwhelmed and that is when I can't shut my mouth. I know it is not the time for big changes (like.moving) but I think until he's well I am going to have to find a way to take some reponsibility off of myself or just come to terms with the fact that my lawn is gonna die, my house may be a mess, but I might be able.to salvage our relationship.

Um, I know this is old...but thank you to married & kitkat for the lecture/reminder. My therapist keeps telling me that I should be able to express my anger at all of his past cheating and lies and he should be able to listen to me to do that for me...but, he isn't stable yet and he can't deal with it. Anytime I mention anything it blows up in my face. I need to keep a post-it with me at all times to remind me to BITE MY TONGUE and wait!

got to agree about smoking weed or consuming it in any form, every time my SO has smoked it or used my prescribed canabis spray, mania has been triggered and she has left home. we have had countless conversations regarding it, but when hypomania starts she automatically wants to smoke it again to calm here down resulting in arguements over money to buy it, at one point befor she left she got my 15yr old daughter to buy it for her.

then this leads to mania after a period of time, she seems to be stuck in a hypomanic/manic state so i can only presume the drink and weed are still ongoing