Spouses of Bipolar in Active Relationships

A few months ago, I submitted my resume for a few positions with a company that has much better benefits and higher pay than the company I currently work for. If I get hired I will also be working mostly from home and able to set my own schedule for the most part. They called me on Tuesday, and I have a telephone interview scheduled for Monday afternoon. I have been wanting to work for this company for awhile. I will be required to do some travelling, although I don't yet know to what extent or how often. I also may have to fly out of state for two weeks of training once I am hired. My friends and family are encouraging me to accept a position if it is offered. Even my husband wants me to. I really want to.

I think it would be good for the kids that I would be able to be around more and have a much more flexible schedule for doing family things. I will also have higher pay. At the same time, if I do have to travel I am not sure what I will do with the kids. Obviously, I need to find out more about the extent of the travelling aspect of this job but I do wonder where the kids will go while I am gone considering my husband still doesn't have the right meds and isn't stable and my mom is moving out of state in about two weeks. Not sure how I will even do my current job requiring me to be away from home at least 8 hours every day. With the new job I could actually bring the kids with me but I would have to pay the difference in travel expenses and then figure out what I will do with them if I can't bring them to do certain duties (ie. meeting with people). Another thing I am not yet absolutely sure will be a part of my job.

Any thoughts?

That is a tough question. How much of YOUR life do you put on the "back burner" because you have a BPSO? How old are your children?

Any other family/friends in the area? People from your church who could watch the kids? If you live close to a college & have the financial resources, paying a college student might be an option.

If they travel with you, you could probably arrange babysitting services through any major hotel chain.

Post edited by: WornOut2, at: 07/07/2012 05:55 AM

I think if it's meant to be, it will happen. Things will work out as far as the kids and your husband. I think if you are offered the job, you should accept it for you first and for the benefit of your family next. Do you think you will enjoy the work more?

Grace, you are anonymous here, so I hope I can say this as a stranger who now has an investment in you!

You are married to a man who is AT LEAST bipolar. He hides his pdoc visits and his meds from you..

This is DISASTER. The disaster might be put off...but is, IMHO coming..

Take the best job for your kids and you.

The job sounds like a great thing! Don't sweat the small stuff; the details will work themselves out. I say take the job and enjoy the benefits that come with it.

I wanted to reply as you sound like you are in the situation I was about 4 months ago.

In my last job I worked 09:30 - 3:30 Mon-Fri. I wasn't actually looking for a new job, but I was approached by a recruiter who was looking to fill a position that was full time, but allowed me flexibility and to work from home 2 days week with some travel and was a £9000 pay rise due to the fact that I was only working part time.

The travel aspect worried me cos of my little boy and wondering what I could do when I wasn't at home.

Anyway, I agonised over it and I talked to people and everyone said I was crazy not to take it, so I took it and I don't regret it one bit.

I get to see my little boy more often than I ever did in my previous job. I enjoy the flexibility of working from home, of not having to commute every day of the week, which means I see my family more. But, I also enjoy my little trips to London and Indianapolis from time to time.

When I go away, my son stays with my partner's mum (its quite a drive, but worth it) or he stays with my mum (who is even further away).

If you get the job....TAKE IT