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05/08/2012 09:40 AM
WornOut2
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I am just beside myself. Hubby had an appointment scheduled with the pdoc today and he advised me last night that the office called him yesterday to cancel because she is going out of town. I was scheduled to go with him - missed the last three - one at her request/two because of work commitments.

His rescheduled appointment is for JUNE 20th W00t W00t WTF are we supposed to do until then? She played with his meds on the last two visits. Nothing has changed about the way he feels except that he is more depressed (she decreased his Wellbutrin). So, I take it that he is supposed to continue to feel out of sorts (racing thoughts, lots of pacing)for the next six weeks - THE most stressful time in the school year?

I am at a loss at what to do here. I'm tempted to play with his meds and I told him that this morning. I had concerns about him making it through the school year to begin with. Now we get to do it ALONE? Angry Angry Angry

OMG! I think that this is way more stress than I can handle. Sending out an SOS here. Any suggestions?

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05/08/2012 09:45 AM  Top
ridingthewaves
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OMG I am so sorry wornout! I would be soooooooooooo mad!

Do they have another pdoc in the office he can see for now?


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05/08/2012 09:46 AM  Top
marriedtoit
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This would have me freaking out too. But let's look at options:

1. Call her office back and tell them that you guys CAN'T wait till June 20. See if they will get you in much sooner.

2. Who are her patients supposed to go to when she is out of town? Call that pdoc and get an appointment if you can.

3. What about the pdoc who gave you the second opinion--try him

4. Is there a mental health clinic in town that does walk-in visits

5. The ER

I would try 1-4 before adjusting his meds on your own! At least can the pdoc TALK to you on the phone about things so the meds can get adjusted?

All of my advice is based on experience and reading. I am not a medical doctor, and have never even played one on TV.

05/08/2012 10:34 AM  Top
wifeonbpexpress
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I would call the pdoc and try to get her to adjust the meds over the phone. If she won't, I would ask her what other options there are as he is not in a good place and there are plans being made for treatment this summer--you need professional help right now! I would not back down on this, it isn't very professional to leave one's patients with no other options for another 6 weeks. I think married's idea of going to the 2nd opinion pdoc is a good one.
You are worthy of respect, love, and empathy. Choose life, find your joy, find your passion.

Please see a licensed counselor for professional direction. All I can provide is my best advice.

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05/08/2012 10:55 AM  Top
WornOut2
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@Riding - unforunately, she is in solo practice

@Married - I have called the office and left a message for a callback in order to respond to your #1 and #2. I am not even sure that she is in the office today. Her assistant (I guess he must be a nurse, because he calls in refills to the drug store) spoke with my husband earlier about what scripts he will need during the time she is away. I do not know exactly when she is leaving town and exactly when she is returning. I suspect that she has already left. Why else would she have cancelled his 6 PM appointment?

@Married & Wife - the second opinion doctor is not an option. He left the practice and relocated in order to take a job at Mass General.

The more I think about this, the madder I get.Angry Angry Angry


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05/08/2012 11:07 AM  Top
wifeonbpexpress
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These doctors have GOT to know how their patients (and pt. spouses) anxiously wait for the day of their appts. to arrive! I would still pursue talking directly with her.
You are worthy of respect, love, and empathy. Choose life, find your joy, find your passion.

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05/08/2012 11:16 AM  Top
hopefulcb
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Even thought my husband's pdoc is alone, we have his pager number for emergencies or if he is out of town, doesn't she give you one? If not, I would ask for one. That is really unprofessional, especially in their line of field. Heck Im not a dr and my office can get a hold of me 24/7, what gives?
It isn't my husband's fault he has an illness. It is his responsibility on how he treats it so he doesn't hurt others or himself in the midst of it.

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05/08/2012 11:20 AM  Top
BusyBof3
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I have played with my fiance's meds (with pre-agreements from the PDOC) and have had much success. My fiance has "his time of the month" that falls pretty predictibaly every month so I often up some of his meds the week before and then lower them the week after. Good luck to you both!
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Fiance's Current Meds:
Fluoxetine (Prozac) 20 mg Two times per day
Epitol (Carbamazepin)200 mg Four times per day
Desyrel (Trazodone) 25 mg One time per day
Alprazolam (Xanax) 1 mg Two times per day
Lithium 150 mg Two times per day
Simvastatin (Zocor) 20 mg One time per day

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*"Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder A 4-Step Program for You and Your Loved Ones to Manage Illness and Create Lasting Stability by Julie A. Fast and John Preston, Psyd authors of "Loving Someone With Biploar"

*"An Unquiet Mind A Memoir of Moods and Madness" by Kay Redfield Jamison

*"Panic Anxiety & Phobias New Stratagies to Free Yourself from Worry and Fear" by Shirley Babior, LCSW, MFCC and Carol Goldman, LLCSW

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05/08/2012 11:21 AM  Top
BusyBof3
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Hopeful, I agree. We have our PDOCS home and cell phone numbers.

Post edited by: BusyBof3, at: 05/08/2012 11:21 AM

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Fiance's Current Meds:
Fluoxetine (Prozac) 20 mg Two times per day
Epitol (Carbamazepin)200 mg Four times per day
Desyrel (Trazodone) 25 mg One time per day
Alprazolam (Xanax) 1 mg Two times per day
Lithium 150 mg Two times per day
Simvastatin (Zocor) 20 mg One time per day

GREAT Reads:
*"Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder A 4-Step Program for You and Your Loved Ones to Manage Illness and Create Lasting Stability by Julie A. Fast and John Preston, Psyd authors of "Loving Someone With Biploar"

*"An Unquiet Mind A Memoir of Moods and Madness" by Kay Redfield Jamison

*"Panic Anxiety & Phobias New Stratagies to Free Yourself from Worry and Fear" by Shirley Babior, LCSW, MFCC and Carol Goldman, LLCSW

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05/08/2012 11:23 AM  Top
wifeonbpexpress
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I wouldn't advise messing with the meds unless the pdoc gave you specific instructions as to what you can do in certain circumstances.
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