Spouses of Bipolar in Active Relationships

She doesn't seem like she's on crack anymore, more like 5 cups of coffee even when she's tired and doesn't think things thru at all.

For example, her insurance agent send her an email a week ago that premium was not paid and I took care of it two days ago. She got another email that said the premium is set to renew on 8/25/2012 and emailed me that email which i read but her interpretation was that the payment did not go thru.

Another example was that she owed 600 dollars to her pdoc and I told the pdoc that I would ask my father to send the money in the mail to the pdoc because I will be out of town and I took all finances away from her about 6 months ago when her mania started. She calls my father a few hours ago telling him to send the money to the doctor..but doesn't ask him if he has her address or offers to give it to him.

She's not talking about people shooting at her anymore but these are two obvious examples of her not thinking clearly. What I didn't like was when I pointed out to her that the email didn't say anything about not getting payment or cancellation she played it off like she didn't tell me anything about cancellation or lack of payment but was telling me something else..she was covering for her lies...I'm wondering how far she is going right now in her state to do that or if it's just embarrassing from realizing she made a simple mistake because she is not clear right now.

Post edited by: Confused101, at: 07/26/2012 06:53 PM

Remeber, there were true lies before. So take everything as the good sign it is. Hang in there. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

She has been very moody

But better

Wife went to walk dog, been very irritable on and off last few days, but also had period. Typically, I can't tell, her mood doesn't change but I guess when she's not stable it showed. However, she called me this morning and was throwing up and couldn't get home.

Took her to ER and they did blood test. Her depakote level was too high

it was at 117

The zone should be between 50 and 100

It's weird because when she was taking 1000mg she had her blood level at 49

and when doctor took her to 1500 it spiked up to 117

I think she wasn't taking them all the time or I don't know what...but she is now

for sure and is being serious about it. Doctor backed her off to 1250 mg and said they should hit her within next 4 to 5 days. The vomiting and the other symptoms stopped...she is still manic. Had a few friends over last night and her mouth didn't shut up for 1 minute. She was the life of the party. She is the person you never hear at parties typically. She is not normally outgoing and is not a big talker, great listener though...but being manic she just can't shut up and still waking up at 4-5am.

We are ok though...the gay guy seems gay gay and very gay.

She hasn't been seeing him and keeps telling me that the lesbian had an agenda..my therapist also said that...will see and hopefuly time will tell, but she swears up and down that nothing ever happened and that she loves me and she was mad at me for putting her in jail but that nothing ever happened with anyone...and she loves me to death, etc.

does depakote stop working when it's at a too high of a dose ?

I told her that I will be in charge of finances till she is stable, which she clearly is not right now. She is still on the manic side, but nothing crazy..just hyper sensitive, very irritable, volatile, argues alot, doesn't have much logic...that's the one that bothers me the most..her logic is totally not normal right now. She sounds the same, looks the same, but her logic is not normal. She's not on the moon any more but her view of our life, how she treats me is so not her. If I point out basic mistakes that any reasonable person would understand, she takes it like something is wrong with me.

Very defensive, inconsistent, still life of the party. The pdoc reduced the depakote to 1250 so it should be in range and told her that it should start working within a few days. It's been a month that she's been on it and I have to say I don't notice any difference at all. The increase of abilify didn't seem to do anything either as far as I'm concerned....and she is taking the pills.

When she was acting really crazy it was easy to separate the real her from the disease, but now she is alot more like herself...but she is still looking thru the manic lenses if that makes any sense. On one hand she admits that she needs to get better, but I don't think she understands yet what is wrong with her...but only believes it because that's what she's been told.

I have't seen any real remorse, embarrassment, still tons of grandiosity not wild I'm the president type of grandiosity, but much more self esteem then she normally has.

She is speaking a bit less in the car, the forced speech is better, but she is naturally on the way down. I almost exploded twice ...last night and this morning, every time I'm near an explosion I think about a roller coaster that's about to go on a steep down slope without any end and that typically makes me think about consequences of getting into an argument with her and her leaving the house, etc, etc.

I just want my sweet, kind, humble, wife back that is a real person not some cold, paranoid, argumentative women who took over my wifes body.

If I look at it 1 month at a time it's getting better, but when will she and I be back on the same page...that's what I'm worried about...is it ever going to happen...is she going to say WTF !! she seems overly sensitive on one hand but on the other hand almost seems like she has so much self esteem she doesn't care about hurting my feelings...

I guess I have to remain patient

She hasn't been drinking much at all...I think she has been sticking to the 2 drinks per week rule...anyway, no more drinking from 3:30 to 8:00 every day.

Post edited by: Confused101, at: 08/03/2012 03:35 PM