Spouses of Bipolar in Active Relationships

Thanks, Lolli. Wisdom, from your lips to God's ears. I thought I could be strong enough to get through this, but I can't do it. I deserve a better man. I don't think he will ever take his treatment seriously. I have read every bit of information I could get my hands on, trying to understand. Trying to be supportive even when it became clear he was having an affair and turning friends against me. At this point....I am too weak to hang on any longer.

Dr Diva, I don't think you were listening to Lollipop closely enough!

Sometimes the STRONG thing to do is to walk away from a relationship or marriage in which we KNOW our loved one is sick, but if they won't accept they need help, staying is like going down on the Titanic and refusing a life raft. How silly would that be?

Oddly enough my bpso was born on the day the Titanic sank...should have taken that as a effin sign

Rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. one of my favorite quips. And we will all go down together! lol

DrDiva, there are no coincidences, some say.

Read the lyrics to the song you just referenced:

We met as soul mates on Parris Island

We left as inmates from an asylum

And we were sharp, as sharp as knives

And we were so gung ho to lay down our lives

We came in spastic like tameless horses

We left in plastic as numbered corpses

And we learned fast to travel light

Our arms were heavy but our bellies were tight

We had no home front, we had no soft soap

They sent us Playboy, they gave us Bob Hope

We dug in deep and shot on sight

And prayed to Jesus Christ with all of our might

We had no cameras to shoot the landscape

We passed the hash pipe and played our Doors tapes

And it was dark, so dark at night

And we held on to each other like brother to brother

We promised our mothers we'd write

And we would all go down together

We said we'd all go down together

Yes we would all go down together

Remember Charlie, remember Baker

They left their childhood on every acre

And who was wrong? And who was right?

It didn't matter in the thick of the fight

We held the day in the palm of our hand

They ruled the night, and the night

Seemed to last as long as six weeks...

...On Parris Island

We held the coastline, they held the highlands

And they were sharp, as sharp as knives

They heard the hum of our motors

They counted the rotors

And waited for us to arrive

And we would all go down together

We said we'd all go down together

Yes we would all go down together

yep. I know. Thanks, Married. You are nothing if not observant.

It is a song about the Vietnam war. About the soldiers who lost their lives or their innocence in that war. Going down together.

It is not a song liked much by the military but it is a son that describes some of the mess that was Vietnam. I think it describes some of our plight with an undiagnosed spouse too.