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12/17/2008 06:23 AM

Do you dislike people?

FNG
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Hi, I don't meant to be mean, but does anyone here feel you dislike interacting with people and are sometimes ousted in one way or another?
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12/17/2008 06:58 AM
debiski
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I hate interacting with people and find most of them to be stupid (not so much in an educated sense, but in a "common sense" sense). I also feel most people are close minded, which really makes me mad. I generally avoid all people except my family and my pdoc.

12/18/2008 05:55 AM
mamanordy

I find a lot of ppl to be stupid also in a common sense way like deb. I hate having to deal with them. It is almost like no one cares anymore and it really gets me going. I get angry and very impatient with them. So therefore I try to avoid them at all costs unless I HAVE to see them.

12/19/2008 12:49 AM
FNG
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Hi, thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. i think its difficult to find someone on the same wavelength out thereGrin

12/23/2008 09:30 AM
hipmama42
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I've been giving this question a lot of thought.

If by "people" you mean the public, then yes...I hate their pushing, shoving, greedy, uncaring, selfish, rude, inconsiderate teeming masses -- esp. now with holiday shopping, the long lines at the Wal-Mart and throngs of people at the mall.

I try to avoid large crowds for that reason.

I was in a customer service position as a retail pharmacist for 13 years, and it was horrible. For the store, it was all about profit, and filling the most Rx you could every single day...and for the customer, getting the cheapest price on their meds. Customers were often rude, impatient, nasty, cranky, demanding, and in some cases asking me to do something illegal!

My store manager (it was a pharmacy in a grocery chain) would come trotting over to tell me that some customer had said I was "rude" or "uncooperative" because I would not do what they demanded. The store manager would say stuff to me like "I don't care about your personal feelings, the customer is always right...find a way to suck it up and be nice and pleasant at all times, and always accomodate the customer." A pharmacist who was filling in for me said to me, "if you don't like people this is not the job for you..." Well, she was one of those "negative blood pressure" types who never ever got nervous, flustered,anxious, upset, or angry...always calm even with long lines of nasty customers badgering her to hurry up and get their order done.

This is when I began to hate "people" in that sense of the word. I simply cannot tolerate rude and ignorant behavior from strangers. As for individuals, I tend to be wary and warm up to people slowly, and it takes a long time for me to trust.

I do not want to live like a hermit, however, or deprive myself of opportunities to have fun and try new things...which does involve "people" and strangers, so I am striving for the happy medium.

I go out into the world for short periods, then retreat into my protected womb at home to recover my serenity.

There is a line from Deserata that I really like because it sums up how I feel:

"Avoid loud and aggressive people, for they are vexations to the spirit."


12/23/2008 01:13 PM
seymour7
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I agree with all thats been said.The older I get the more I seem to dislike people in general.I know how that sounds,but its true.

I esp agree with the way hipmama worded it.With their pushing,shoving,greedy,uncaring,selfish,rude,ect. The holidays seem to bring it all out even more.

Hipmama-I didnt know you were a retail pharmacist.I worked 6 mos in retail before the hosp.I also disliked the interaction-esp with the rude and impatient ones.I used to work days,but it was too many people and very busy.Then I went to nights,just started back to evenings about a mos. ago.

Getting back to work,with the anxiety at its highest (and other health issues)is very difficult for me right now.Im having a hard time,but trying to deal with all the extra stimulus.

On nights I only had to deal with 1 pharm. and 3 other techs.Now its about 3 times that.Its a bit much.

Loud cell phone users and people who talk loud in general are so obnoxious.All right,I now feel better after writing this and knowing there are many others that dislike people.

Thanks FNG for starting this post.


12/23/2008 01:32 PM
CherrieAngel
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I have always hated people in general. If ur not a friend or member of my family then I dont really want much to do with you (in person that is), lol. I think this was mentioned in a different thread but I shop at walmart in the middle of the night, LOL.

I care about everyone here on MDJ a whole lot so I dont want anyone taking offense to what i just said Smile


12/23/2008 08:43 PM
FNG
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Hi all, thanks for sharing your encounters. I guess people are just like that. I agree with what all of you had shared. People in general terms are hard to get along because of so many different kinds of attitudes and personalities. Sometimes I get impatient and short fused with people. It defintely rubs on me these days. I guess I have to a bit more open minded for my own sake so that I won't deny myself of many great fun! I procrastinate in joining clubs because of the dread in meeting the kind of obnoxious people i dislike. Because in here we understand, I guess we are more tolerant and supportive? Glad to have you all. Smile

12/25/2008 09:22 AM
CherrieAngel
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Nobody here has annoyed me in the least, lol. It's people out in the world. I dont even like them looking at me or talking to me.

I hate sounding negative because i dont 'feel' negative when I think about. It's like some people like meatloaf and some people don't. Meh. Most people enjoy socializing....I on the other hand dont Smile


12/26/2008 01:34 AM
FNG
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hey cherrie,

i don't know how to socialise and don't like it and don't know how to make myself to like it and can't understand how some people are so good at doing it...its amazing lolTongue

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