I didn't say your advice wasn't good, JcA. It was honest and open. Even your delivery was genuine, kind. Nope that's not what I'm commenting to. What I was reacting to is that view you share with scotty, if I wasn't mistaken, that being comfortable w/women is about the number of partners, about the conquest. That's what I ws reacting to. You give maxcady a solid approach to accomplishing this and that directive was very sincere.
All I said was, and I'll elaborate this time, even if the most naive women get sucked in by that behavior, thinking they are the only ones you're using it on, women in general or in time, find that behavior and the guys who employ it pretty uninteresting and disappointing.
It shouldn't surprise you that any woman would comment on that behavior as being abhorrent. This is the age old dilemma between men and women.
I guess by now I know so many men who rein in that urge to have multiple partners. AND, scotty said that he did it because he was scared of women...his words.
No, you seem like a sincere member with good intentions, JcA and honestly, your comment was filled with humor, too, so I didn't mean to put the kibosh on that, either. I was just commenting on the behavior it self, the multi-partner behavior. It's loathsome. I know, I was there. But, it's also human, women engage in it, too. maybe we just react to it in guys more. I dunno!
But, yeah, don't be offended by my comment. It was just a women on men comment...pretty run of the mill, really! 
"The part of my recovery plan that I would say made up 80% is MDJ. I suffered a lot prior to finding MDJ, felt alone and had no one to talk to who really understood me. In the Bipolar Group I found like minded individuals who I could relate to and who offered support to me when I needed it. As I recovered, I could then offer support to them which gave me a good feeling about myself. I have met some great people here who I would class as good friends and know I would still be in the slump I was in without them. Now I am stable, I know that MDJ plays an important part in keeping me that way. Thank you MDJ for being there for us all and making us no longer feel alone." (liamacker)
I hope that's not every man's goal! 
