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My hubby says he can see that the CPAP gives me more energy and helps me feel better. But at night he complains if I have a little bit of trouble with snapping or have to adjust a strap. He says to me, "Does everyone have problems?" I dont know what to do. Its not like I am going to put it on before I am in bed. he wants to get ready first. I think he should let me go first so when he brushes teeth I could get it on. I am just really frustrated. I am sorry. Any ideas.

It's all a part of the adjustment. Tell him "yes everyone does have trouble getting comfortable with these when they first start however I hear those that get help and support adjust quicker than those who don't" LOL don't give up before you know it it will be second nature to both of you

I just want him to be willing to use ear plugs or let me sleep in different room. He is getting really grouchy and I dont like extra aggravations. It seems like sometimes he likes something then next minute he doesnt. It makes it hard to deal with. lol

Does he have a lot of stress at work or something? sounds like he's taking out his stress on you.

He has been agravated at work with someone who keeps interupting him. But it is more than that. He just is annoyed at things and wont let you find a solution.

Angel, you could invite him to come on here and read, we each have adjustment periods that we have to go through, and his basic choices in the matter is either be understanding that it is going to take you some time, or if he don't like it, he can go sleep in another room, it does sound like there is some other cause for his grumpiness other than your having problems with the mask.. do you generally go to bed around a set time? say like 9pm? if so you might try starting your bed time routine a few moments earlier than what you do now.. that way you are in the bedroom already when he goes to brush his teeth..

I think carmen is right it sounds like something else is causing his aggrevation. maybe you can suggest as part of your night time routine that you take some time to talk about your days. Give him time to vent his frustrations as well. Make it a special time for the two of you so he see's that the machine does not have to come between the two of you.

He finally let me know whats going on. He is feeling stressed out at work. He hasnt been exercising which usually takes his frustrations out. But wwhat is weird is he insists that somedays the CPAP is quiet and other days sounds like a hurricane. It sounds quiet to me when I go to sleep. It hasnt woke me up. At least today he didnt growl he just looks stressed.I think he is sleeping bad and wants to put the blame on me.

His stress levels can sometimes affect his hearing, I know mine gets acute at times, drives me nuts... but the simple fact, stressed or not you need your machine, if it bothers him that much show him where the linens are kept, where the blankets are kept and show him where the couch is..

Your health is more important.

Maybe when he thinks it's loud it has moved and broken the seal and air is leaking. I still shouldn't be that loud but it's a possibility. maybe you can try experiementing one night have him gently wake you when he thinks it's loud so you can see if that's the problem. Make sure you stress that this is not ok to do all the time just so you can figure out if this is the cause. If it's not the cause buy him some ear plugs.