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03/07/2008 12:03
Mach
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Hi guys, aside from the general torment of our abused pasts, present day drama is also running its fair share of torture.

Iv been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and feel mayb we have reached a point where we can no longer see eye to eye. Maybe im just being rash, but the things he has said about his feelings for me and his felings in general make me wonder...

Iv been accused of being a different person from the time we met in college, which my a carefree point in my life with no resposibilities. No Iv finished school, I lve in and out of my family home when my step mother lets me. But im now loaded with resposibilities. I live in Africa and extended family is the order of the day. So its me, my mother, my 2 orphaned cousins and him.

I used to help him out with money and stuff when he was down and out, which happened more often than not. But of late its become more difficult than not. suddenly he makes it seem like I haven't done anything. we were sick together i figured that i was strong enough to recover, so i gave him my prescription. he got better, but felt at a point we were in competition to see who was sicker than the other with statments after iv complained of a pain like, you can be as bad as me.

there is so much goin, im scared to take up too much time. but il try wrapit up quick...

then there is this 'friend', at first there was singing aquiantances in the choir, then suddenly there was more talk of this yung lady. then sddenly she was giving him presents. She knows about me, but never made the effort to communicate with me, just my man. I guess it may seem rahter childish, but the point is after i voiced a complaint about this girl, he carried on as if i didn't. of which i think thats totally wrong. when i repeated my sentiments, he accused me of having problems and being ashamed of showng to his female friends, tho he associated well with my mail friends.

its sordid and sad. I love him, but he told me he doen't love me as much as he used to.

I need strength to make a decision good for me and my future. Do i need to put up with this b.s

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03/07/2008 14:58
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!







"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.


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03/07/2008 14:59
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will write more later just woke up

Love

Gloria








"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.




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03/07/2008 16:02
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Ah Mach, you know what you gotta do. He's gone, out of here, history, good riddence, bon jour, bye bye......... Whose home is it? He is an ungrateful ass! If he says he doesn't love you the same any more.....he has already moved on. Make him go and he can use the other girl for a while! He has over-stayed his welcome. He took your money, he took your home, he took you heart, he took your self respect....that is enough....time for you to give to YOU now!! He is a user, mach. Don't be his victim any longer. Does he work for money someplace? If not, his fault, oh well. My final words right now....Kick his ass OUT!!!!!!!!!

Love

Gloria

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"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.


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03/07/2008 21:20
Mach
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Thanks Gloria, I will need all te support I can get coz my heart had grown roots. I am really attached, but something snapped in me and I can see reason. Im meeting him today to make myself heard and know. He even had the nerve to threaten me with words like, 'becareful you are on shaky ground'. I have more self respect than that and no I deserve better. Relationships are about friendship and companionship, Im not looking for a sparring partner/oponent. I want someone I ca find peace in at the end of each hard day. I know Im worth more...Sad thing is his family love me to bits and I do them. They will be hard to whine off!!!!

Sadly for my peace of mind and my happiness, its gotta be done. I told his sister about all this and she agrees her brother can be that sort of a person. Well its morning 7.17 here, Im meeting him after he has done what he is gonna do, then its the moment of truth. I calm and composed. I CAN DO THIS!!!!

Gloria you are the best. It means alot to have someone when Im feeling this dejected and heart broken. Like I sad you got your work cut out for you after its all done!!!!

Take care

love loads

Mach

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03/07/2008 21:23
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I have no older sisters, you make a pretty good damn one at that!!!!
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03/07/2008 21:37
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I am so proud of you. Get out there and do what you have to do......Let me know how it goes... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Gloria








"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.




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03/07/2008 21:46
Mach
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Thanks, Im gonna need all the luck I can get. The first guy I ever loved this way had to turn out rotten...

I'll give you feedback as soon as its done, but that wont be for a coupla hours, Im only meeting him after his church meeting at 430pm our time.

Take care

Love

Mach

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03/07/2008 21:48
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Well thank you sis......you make a pretty good younger sis too...lol

Love

Gloria








"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.


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03/07/2008 21:54
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OK, sis, give him hell though! lolol

Love

Gloria








"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.


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