Time to Take a Leap(heavy trigger possibility)

Sticks and Stones:

the 'sticks and stones' of days of yore

were said to do utmost harm.

but 'words' i say will hurt you more

and their damage more cause for alarm.

broken bones will heal and fade

for those wounds you can bind.

inner pain is far worse when made

for how do you soothe a fractured mind?

Have a great day everyone!

no it wasn't crazy that you lied to get him out. it is fear plain and simple. very sorry you went through all that. no one should.

i hope you didn't think i was saying that physical abuse isn't terrible. i would never say such a thing. i was pointing out only that often times emotional abuse is much more difficult to heal from. perhaps i shouldn't have posted. sorry for upsetting you.

Brenda

emotional abuse is worse than physical. this is what i believe about it.

I think you may have said this not the way you intended. I'm glad you cleared up what you were saying. Don't ever be afraid to post. I was not offended.

I just don't want others to think we are minimizing physical abuse. They are all horrible and hard to heal from. I agree that emotional abuse is more difficult to recognize and can be very hard to heal from. So can all of the other forms of abuse. (be hard to heal)

Thank you for the kind words. I know most of my decisions were fear based. I'm glad that I don't have as much fear now as I did before.

Did your physical abuser also emotionally abuse you? Are you talking about the same person? It is so difficult to sort all of this out when there is more than one person causing the abuse. Having one abuser is hard enough! I just can't believe how many people are abused. It is sad!! I found out that my step-sister was molested by her grandfather.....I didn't know him b/c he was my moms ex-husbands dad. It is everywhere!

I hope that we are okay with our thoughts on this. I know you didn't mean anything bad. We all say things that don't come out the way we mean them sometimes.

Take care.

my mom was neglectful, starved me as a small child when she got mad at me, and emo abusive.

my gma (mom's mom) was emo abusive throughout my childhood. telling me i was the only fat ugly one in the family. telling me to my face that my mom blamed me for my brother dying at birth (i was born 1.5 yrs earlier and was supposed to die the way he did). told me when my mom was giving birth to me how she prayed i would die and my mom would live (granted i can understand the feeling of if you had to choose you would choose your own child. but come on! to tell this to a 5yr old is just wrong)

i was sexually abused once by one of my brother's friends, from the age of 7-15ish by another.

when my mom left me with my step with no goodbye or kiss my butt, i ran away, ending up with a psychotic pedophile who forced me to do the most horrible things. left him 1.5 yrs later, ended up getting date raped by someone at a friend's party (resulting in a pregnancy). had no where to live at the time. ended up with another guy that was more abusive than any of the rest. in the end he forced me to give up my child with the threat the child and i "would never live long enough for me to change his first sh--- diaper" if i tried to leave. so i gave up my son. i got preg again after being beaten to miscarriage 3 times. i finally left when he molested my six month old son severely. a friend of mine decided we should get married to change my name and the baby's name. he was a good man, we were married for 8 yrs. my friend/husband wasn't outwardly abusive. he just made me feel stupid and worthless without saying anything (does that make sense?)

believe it or not this isn't even all i have been through. now i live in fear of everyone and everything.

hannah

I realize that some of it is my thinking that is already there, I expect to be treated badly, so I see it in everyone. Really when I think about it they probably don't dislike or reject me. Of course we are afraid. You only know what you have lived, and if what you have lived is bad it's hard to see life another way, even though you want it.

Yes, do you or have you seen a therapist? Do you have a supportive relationship now?