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04/21/2008 07:00
belinda1217
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 This was my uncle by marriage not blood.

It went on from the age of 7-13.

I was scared to death to tel anyone.

Once his daughter walked into the room when it was happening.She said nothing.He left another state because

he was found guilty of child molestation.

I didn't tell anyone till I was 13 and my sister saw something happen when we had gone swimming.

I've gotten over but he was caught abusing his grand daughter and got a 2 yr sentence.I just want nothing do with him.

I was raped twice once when I was 14 and the other time when I was 30.I sent that I sent that man to prison in 1993 he's still in prison.

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04/21/2008 13:52
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 I'm sorry for what happened. It is beginning to seem to me that when we have been molested young we also end up being abused and or raped when we are older. I wish there was a way to stop that.

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04/21/2008 14:34
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 I am so sorry for all you went through. Abuse is a horrible thing to have to go through. Then we end up dealing with it later in life, when it returns to our memory. It does seem that we are abused later in life in someway. It is sad that we go through so much as a child and history repeats itself as we become adults. The initial abuse affects us so much throughout our lives, in so many different ways. I'm now told that some of my physical health problems are due to the abuse!! It just isn't right!!

I'm glad that you are here and reaching out to others.

Take care, Chris

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04/21/2008 15:13
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 Life is a cycle repeating itself until we resolve the issue at hand. Once we have been abused, all of our relationships imitate those early relationships until we break the cycle, and ceal with the issues. Wish there was an easier way.Belinda, glad to see you are here, and hope to see more of you. Hope that this site can offer you the ability to heal.

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04/29/2008 13:03
belinda1217
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 Brenda,

That I don't believe because I'm happily married healed myself and married after the perp who raped me was convicted. 1 month later and I got through childhood fine when I victim of incest for years.

I hardly ever have any memories of the rape the last time was after yrs of having none.I healed myself.

Belinda

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04/29/2008 13:44
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 Sorry to offend you, just ofering an opinion. Congratulations on being healed and happily married. Glad to know that not everrybody is devistated by the abuse. You say that you got through childhood fine, but there was something going on, you did not say anything until your sister seen something. If there were no guilt, or shame; wouldn't you hane said something earlier. At age seven, one knows that a man should not be touching them, or doing other things. Also your writtings seemto be a bit bitter, or resentful. Again sorry if I offended you, was only offering an opinion, and a warm welcome.

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04/29/2008 16:47
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 Please don't take this the wrong way, but do you think that you don't remember because you are blocking it? If you really were healed you would remember it and have the issue resolved so that it did not effect you emotionally. I had my memories totally blocked and I thought I was fine for some years, only to be triggered and have it all come out again. I dealt with what I could and buried it again, only to be triggered again and so on. Little by little I do get better. I'm glad you have a happy marriage and if you do feel you are healed maybe you can give us some ideas on how to do that.



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05/09/2008 13:58
belinda1217
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 Brenda,

I didn't say anything because I was scared to death of the man.

Belinda

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05/09/2008 14:22
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 Ladies, Ladies, Ladies......Of course we can heal ourselves.......but it's called keeping it to yourself, not telling, forgetting, acting like it never happened!! I don''t really care who I offend here. You don't heal by doing any of these things, especially lying to yourself. It IS a process of healing. Healing a great big infected oozing sore where your childhood memories should be. You can't heal a wound like that without a doctor and antibiotics and great care. You can't tell me it doesn't affect your life. How could it not. It is abnormal a deformity, and you know it's there even though you can't see it. You have never been without it so how would you know what normalcy is. You have never experienced it.

Gloria

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05/09/2008 16:01
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 Gloria,

I believe that Lori and I were trying to bring Belinda to this point, only by being more polite. But for being short and to the point, that was well said. You always have a way of adding hummor to your post.

Brenda
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