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03/04/2008 01:16
glory
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 Well girls, aren't we a sorry bunch.....lolol I talk about it every chance I get!! I want everyone to be comfotable enough with it to recognize it. I want everyone to be familiar enough with it to confront the sick bitches and bastards that do it. I want everyone to be strong enough to get involved and help the abused and molested child to get free...

When I was young and trapped there I was never able to tell anyone what my mom & dad were doing. Back then in the 50's and 60's .. who could you tell. Plus, I thought eveybody lived like that....They would have beaten me harder and killed me if I had told anything outside the 4 walls of our house. They are both dead. should be the end of it, lol yea right.

You are probably getting quite tired of my story, but it was a therapist that put me on the road to recovery...somewhat. lol She told me it was alright not to love them. It was alright, in fact, to hate them. But she also tried to help me put it way back on the back burner too...I still can't and I'm 58. Forget...never....forgive ...never.

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03/05/2008 13:17
Lilibit58
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 I'm hoping for others that being able to talk about it publically, not just my specific story but it is not more open in society to talk about it, will help there to be less of it happening. Back years ago I too couldn't say anything, you just didn't. Today the obvious signs I exhibed as a child in school would not be overlooked. Seems from what I'm reading the holding it in is what eats away at you, it was the worst thing for me.
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03/05/2008 22:24
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 Yes making people more aware is important to some of our healing issues. I had a very public epidsode in my life just in my early twenties. I was invited to another city to help fight against a male entertainment place going in and how it could affect the community. It was very hard to talk about my past and why I felt so strongly about this goal. I remember a lady running out of the meeting with tears running down her face. The people really did not know what to say to my face about what I experience , but wanted to know more about why those experinces were my fight against the issue. I was in a newspaper article from this meeting. Absolutely terrified that someone in my family would happen accross it and cause another family rift. I made my choice to help the people and for the right reasons than standing behind my families failures.

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03/05/2008 22:38
glory
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 I love you cappy let's help those poor kids as much as we can. Thank you for doing that for us. Lilibit ya know I love you. lol We gotta do whatever, whenever we can.

GOOOOOOOOOOOO USSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

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"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.


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03/08/2008 11:55
bunny_fly
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 people don't know ahat to say. they are at a loss for words, not wanting to offend, so they say nothing. which makes it even worse, having reached out for support and not recieving it. although i think it is easier to talk about when your not face to face. how can we end that uncomfortable feeling it brings up in people?
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03/10/2008 06:07
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 I'm not a huge Oprah fan but someone told me in a year or two she is going to work full time trying to change the laws concerning sexual assult especially involving children. Tougher punishment and help for the victims. I really hope she does something. so many men are abused as children and then go out and abuse others when they are grown. It's this sick pattern and has to be broken somehow. I know what you mean about the churches adding to your guilt and shame. I think some are getting better. the church I go to has a group for victims of abuse.

I have gotten to the point where I can finally talk about it to just about anyone. It is supriseing how many people I met have been affected somehow by sexual assult. It makes somepeople uncomfortable but that's their problem not mine. I don't mind shoving it down someones throat if I have to. the more we talk about it the more people become aware of this epidemic in our country. everyone plays a part to the cure.

okay I'll get off my soap box. I get fired up about this subject.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- but it's a train about to run over you.
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03/10/2008 10:13
Mach
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 The hardest thing is coming out. There is a great fear of rejection by those you tell, friends, family and even partners. People ask..'why didn't u do something about it" and honestly its not in every person who can do that. other than that there are so many other fears playing, u may feel as a child u have done something wrong to deserve such bad treatment, or fear being beaten... there are so many things.

That shame that you then suffer having been a victim forces you to keep it to yourself and hold onto that secret with dear life. As a little child you dignity is all you got. To have to experience rejection by society at such an age is torture, and believe me TV DOES NOT MAKE IT ANY BETTER!!! The way they potray such issues in movies leaves alot to be desired really, they force people tp recoil.

But once as an individual you are able to accept whats happened and work on making it better for yourself, the world can rot in your wake, who cares, you are a fighter and a survivor...

Im rooting for you all ladies, we will fight our war, protect the kids ours and others. hings like this should never have to happen to anyone.

Sorry Im getting emotional!!!
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03/10/2008 20:07
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 Mach, perfectly well understand getting emotional, very comon feeling here too. I have just started talking to others about it. my biggest problem is refering to anything personal, i feel that no one would believe what i have been through. that it was to much for one person to handle, much less a child. i have accutualy had counselors that have alluded to this fact.
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