cappymuir
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Hey girls- it is not easy living with this abuse that was inflicted on us. I knowthat I suffered for many years before I had any relief and that was because I kept on hoping. Something had to be out there to make sense of what happened and enable me to cope. I was 33 yrs old before I ound relief and understanding. I had counseling since I was 8. Boy- that did not help, it was more confusing, especially when I went to church counseling. We are already filled with guilt and to have church views increase this guilt was very harsh to say. Now, I have a counselor that is very intuned to my needs and listens and helps me figure out what is best for me, not her telling me. You have to really get down to the knit and gritty to know yourself more personally than you think you know know. Once , I was able to define my own triggers, issues , thoughts and feelings: my counselor was able to help me put plans in action and brainstorm solutions to my problems. Just to make myself very clear, not eery problem can be solved by you. Some problems are not within our control, we need to learn how to accept them or they will destroy you. I know this from personal experience. My past abuser's ate at my soul continuously for years and the guilt of those I left behind. It was pure torcher for me. my mind could not let go. one day the solution came and I found relief and courage to face my fears head-on. Not everyone can go and be arround their abusers, but that is what i did, to enable me to have relationships with others in my family. I know now that I have the power and they can not take it from me unless I choose for them to do so. I also keep myself safe by being aware and prepared for anything. |
