Finding Closure with Abuser?

Have any of you tried to get closure with the abuser? I tried talking to one of the abusers (he's also my X- husband). It didn't turn ot very well. He didn't listen and surely didn't care what he had done to me.

Any suggestions on how to get closure without having to be around the abuser?

Thanks, Your friend, Chris

That is what I have done towards my closure I guess.....

Last summer I even went to his wedding, he got remarried, it was, I'm not sure, just glad it's over with! He is going to be 82 in May, and I think she is like 90something, so, it was different, to say the least.

I sometimes dream the closure part where I'm telling how it made me feel and how hurt I was that he would do that to me, someone he said he loved and wanted to spend the rest of his life with. I would never try to talk to the person because I know he wouldn't care, and that would make it worse for me.

I did hear that writing a letter or various letters until you get it all out and then burn them helps. Definately don't send them. Maybe we need a closure letter forum here, or in the diary page.

Love

Gloria

Love,

Kylie