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06/19/2011 11:33 PM

What's the deal?

GothicxTragedy
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I was molested by my uncle, molested by a boy at day care, had incestual relationships with some of my family, got sexually harassed by a former boss and raped by my ex boy friend. How come it seems like once it happens it continues on? And how do I attract these kind of people? Is it me?

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06/20/2011 08:39 AM
kittycat1
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Hey Gothicx,

It is never our fault for what happens to us. Dont feel discourage about it. It will get better. One day you are going to find a person that you will love with all your heart and it wont keep happening. This is just a stepping stone for you. People are just trying t make sure that you don't succeed. You have to make sure that you show them wrong. You are capable of doing what ever you what to do. Show them that strong person in you and tell them that you have had enough. It will get better trust me. IM sorry that it keeps happening to you. Take care hun ok!

~cat


06/20/2011 09:11 AM
maryandjimmie
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I know it may feel like its you but trust me its not your fault. I like you have had been through alot in my

life with being sexually abused in different situations but I know it was never my fault. Now that im older I realize it just made me stronger and the woman I am today. It also made me appreciate the man that that came into my life who trully loves me. Please keep your head up and know that all you go through in life makes you the strong woman you are.


06/22/2011 02:13 AM
GothicxTragedy
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Thank you Cat.

06/24/2011 09:42 PM
tiggerkenwood
 
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I don't want to be the bad guy here, but it is my understanding that once a person is abused when they are a child they may unknowingly seek out the same type of person and that type of person seeks out them. Of course what these people did to you is not your fault. However, it might help to get counseling to see if you are following this particular pattern unwittingly.

06/24/2011 09:57 PM
GothicxTragedy
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I am getting conseling.

06/24/2011 10:06 PM
GothicxTragedy
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So you are saying that I unkowingly are attracting these people. It's been me the whole time? This is laughable at best.

06/25/2011 08:19 AM
Irishangel88
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I don't think that's true......sure, certain people put out certain vibes, but if you are constantly running into men who prey on your lack of confidence, your vunerablity....it's still on THEM. All you can do is follow your gut and your head at the same time, and approach every situation with caution.

06/27/2011 03:50 AM
GothicxTragedy
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Very wise words. Thank you for commenting.

06/27/2011 07:11 AM
maryandjimmie
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I dont think that is true anyone who abusses another person weather they are men or woman are still in the wrong. All we can do is becareful who we interact with and follow our instincts. I was abused for a long time and now I have a great man who loves me and takes care of me who meet me in a wheelchair and still married me.
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