Sexual Abuse Support Group

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Welcome to the Sexual Abuse Support Group.

This Support Group is a comfort place for family members and friends to share and ask questions regarding Sexual Abuse.

Feel free to introduce yourself, ask your questions and be around people who are in your spot.

We'll be happy to hear your thoughts on how to make this Sexual Abuse Support Group better.

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roy

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I am new, and am in need of support.

Elizabeth

Hi elizabeth,

You are special in many way 1 God made you,2 your name is like my baby girl so I no your special,3 just by looking at your picture. I hope your are doing well. I just want you to no that your not a lone I do no how you feel. I hate to hear people tell me oh i no how you fell when they haven't been through it so trust me when i tell you i no. I don't want to give you a long story so I'll try to make it short.I come from a family of 10 girls and 3 boys a father who spen his life ruining his children and a mom who work so hard and was so in love didn't have time to make it stop.So one day at the age of 11 by now my dad had his on apartment cause the family and children services made him leave not because of what he was doing but so my mom cac get so foodstamps then he would beat her and take half for his other women or sell what ever he felt like. 1 nite he decide to pick up me and my 9yr sister we was kicking and screaming beging my mom to nit let him take us neighbors all out no one bother to even call cop but it never matter anyway because they would just pick him up let him sleep it off and send him home next day.We get to his apartment he makes us undress and get in bed while he finish watching tv.Got in bed and as he raped me and taken his foot fundling my lil sister private area. He got so angry that he could not fit inside me that he tried to stretch me with his loaded rifle.After that didn't work he got up realizing he was out of beer it 2-3 in morning. When he left i got up dressed me an my sis ran out door to across the hall.We told her what had been happening she let us stay there until my dad finally call my mom and she call cops. They never found us we hid behind old building by night we got scraed so i call 911. When they came we went to station think thank GOD its over WRONG they call our parents and sent us home with them of course this made my dad really anger cause now we broke the rule and told so.That night we went for a ride as we cross the Mississippi River he stop pulled over got out his car told me to get out. He dangled me over that bridge by my foot I hated him for life and I just never understood my mom for staying.Well one day I was at church and I heard the preacher say that we had to forgive 7x . I said to myself that he didn't mean in my case of course I was wrong.so I did I was there for him any and everything he need done or to go i did it for him.Then one day my dad called me about 2-3a.m. and said. babygirl I just wanted to let you no I'm sorry for destorying you,your sisters and moms life. I was speechless shocked then about 2-3 weeks later 1-15-2000 he died and I said to myself he made peace I'm now 40yrs old my mom was my best friend I never hated her just never understood.One day my mom called me about 1-2a.m. in the morning an ask me do you hate me for the things that happen in your life I told her mom I don't hate what happen to us dad did not you and like you have told us all these years he have to answer for that. Then about 2 weeks later 12-08-2007 my mom an best frind died and yes she to made peace with GOD. I tell you all this because my other sisters that went through this are still dealing with the anger,hurt,pain and the fact that not only did they not get a chance to tell dad that YOUDON'T HAVE TO ADMIT WHAT YOU DID TO ME BUT GOD KNOWS AND YOU HAVE TO ANSWER TO HIM ONE DAY BUT FOR ME I FORGIVE YOU YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER MY LIFE ANYMORE! AND TO MOM FOR ALL THE THINGS THEY DIDN'T GET TO SAY OR JUST A SIMPLE MOM I DON'T HATE YOU.It's metally destroying them so PLEASE !! Don't give them the power. I hope this help someone.

I am so lost. Here, and in life. I have vivid memory of a rape in early adult hood and one molestation at 12, but I am seeing faceless shadows through the eyes of a child, and know that I was violated by somebody close to me. I cannot remember anything but how I felt and how I almost imagined it as a game of sorts, it made it seem like it made more sense. I need kindness and understanding. I started cutting about 2 months ago, and am seeing a therapist, but I have two beautiful children, a career, and a husband who loves me, and I feel it all slipping away... help me to remember so I can forget- Please?

Why did you start cutting? Is there something that happened two months ago to trigger it? I know what you're going though, but I can tell you if you let the memories come with the help of a therapist you can get past the bad parts. I had it forgotten completely and when the flashbacks came I was afraid I was loosing my mind. After I understood it and accepting it was not my fault I felt much better about me. Unfortunately this is part of who you are. It can be a small piece that is far away, but it really never goes away like it never happened. You learn to live with it and accept it happened, but doesn't have to affect you so strongly.

Lori