Teens Sexual Abuse Support Group

Hey.I'm new to this website and idk how it workss..but anyway hey every1..um I need help...I've been sexually abused by my own father since I was 10 till this day. It started when my mom was away and I went to innocently sleep with him. And before I knew it he was touching my private parts. Since my mom was away and I was so innocent minded I didn't really understand what was going on. But eventually I did and I was scared. But you see everytime he comes to my room at night I act asleep. I act like I'm sooo asleep that I don't feel it. Idk if he believes it but he doesn't care and he just abuses me...now about a few months back I can't deal with it anymore. The secret is hurting me to keep it in. I was coming to a point where I would cut myself. But thankfully I stopped. But now I can't deal with it. It hurts I'm 18 and I'm putting up with it. My mom has no idea she just think I'm a safe happy girl. And I'm so scared she won't believe me. Or she would get mad for keeping it in for all these years. But I'm coming to a point where I want her to know. I want her to put her arms around me and tell me it'll be okay...idk what to do...I'm stuck and scared and alone....I need help. I just don't know what kind of help.

Please someone give me advice

Thank you <3

The quicker you can tell your mom the faster you can start helping yourself. When you tell someone they will understand and help you, most people you meet has had the same thing done, and I know its not fun. You will feel much better once you tell the truth and stop hiding all your feelings inside.

i told my mom when i was 12 . she didn't believe me , and i told her i lied about it . but hes still trying the same thing aswell . i could never tell .

i was sexually abused by my oldest brother since i was six for over 2 years an i still have nightmares your not alone they do it because we were vulnerable we were family we loved an trusted them an they took it as a sign of weakness

Brittany1993. So sorry that you went through that. You brother had no right to put you through such pain. Stay strong and keep up hope.

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

I know I have to tell but it seems so hard. I feel like I'ma take away my families happiness. I know my mom won't hate me but I kno she will be mad and prob question t because wen I'm around him during the day it's like nothing I try to forget about it. But I feel that if I do tell I'll be takin my moms happiness and I just can't live with that. Thank for your advices tho feels good to have Ppl care and help

Telling a parent and having family happiness taken away is expected. Thats one of the reasons why a child never tells that they were sexualy abused. The fear of rejection. The fear of what would happen to the family if they tell. The rejection the child gets back from the parent or family is that the parent or family refused to beleave what they just heared from the child as to be a lie. Now you ask me who is more expeianced in what just happen. The child or the adult. Who Knew.

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

Lilnena, I know exactly what you're feeling. I was sexually abused by my father for over five years. It took until a few weeks before my seventeenth birthday to get the courage to say anything to my mom about it. During the day I'd try to convince myself it hadn't happened, because he was so different during the day. And about pretending to be asleep, I did that too. I played opposum. The thing is dear, he is the adult. he knows what he did/is doing is wrong. I was terrified to tell my mom, they were always the best of friends, but I am so glad I took that step. It's not right, and even though you are afraid it can get worse the longer you wait to tell. Have faith in your mom that she will accept what you say, it's for the best if you tell.

My step-father sexually abused me when i was 14 and I felt that I needed to tell my mom. Sometimes I wish I didn't because she believed him when he said he didn't and from then on I was put into foster care. All people are different I guess my mom is just not right in the head. Tell your mom ur her daughter she should know. You'll never kno until u try.

welcome to the group.....Missinglove you are so right..You will never know until you do try..Being abuse by people that we though were suppose to love, us and protect us. And for the life of us we would never think that they would hurt use but I guess, it doesn't work the way we think..But at wnd of all abuse we are ones that have suffer, with pain the fear and untruthworthy of people that we know or don't....So make the long of this short we all have tp stick together..