Teens Sexual Abuse Support Group

I'm 17 years old and I was molested by my grandfather when I was 13 years old. Both my parents don't believe me. They sort of label me as a lier to the rest of my family and some of there friends.

I am becoming a mother in 1 week to a beautiful daughter and I don't want this to bother me any longer. I want to know if anyone has any idea...WHY? Why would they still be in denial and not want to help there baby girl till this day(me)?

Quite possibly because addmitting that it happened means admitting that they failed to protect you. Admitting that they failed to rpotect youmeans that they failed as parents. There is also the possibility that one or both of them were abused them self. In this instance, admitting that it happened means admitting that it happened to them.Maybe their own pain is too great to bear and therefore they have to deny your ttruth in order to make their lives livable.

Either way, it does not excuse that they do not believe you. That was wrong of them and you deserve better than that. You cannot make someone believe something they do not want to believe.

Brenda

You know that really makes sense. I'm glad that you understand that. I know I can't make them believe me, but I want them to so bad. I don't hate them or blame them for anything that happened to me, I just thought maybe they would at least talk to me about it instead of talking to others about it. Anyways thank you Brenda you were a big help.

Have you tried talking to them? They may be waiting for you to talk,as they do not want to push you. They could be thinking that you will come to them when you are ready to talk. They also could be neeeding someone to talk to about this.It is a lot for a parent to take in.

Brenda

mommymonster,When someone has been through frighting, thing such as abuse, rape or just being beaten your not sure in who you can talk with..I know that because it has happened to me....I was scared wasn't sure in who I can talk to...Or who would believe me...But one day I had made that move. Because I had found who that person was.

Need to talk PM ME anytime.

Maryanne

And you will find it too....

My mom yelled at me and left me in another state when I told her about my brother and the things that he did. She also got mad last week when I told her that a man got into the car behind me and held me down while I was trying to leave his house. I got away.. Only to come home and feel abused by her crap again. My dad says it's because guys my age don't know how to stop because all they think about is sex... He was 43... He should know how to stop... Thumbs up for stupid fucking parents that need to get over their own crap...

@LittleMissH, I'm sorry that your mom left you like that. No mother should treat their child that way. A mother is suppose to love and protect your child. I did think your dad understands what you are saying. One day when or if you have children you will be a better mother then your mother was. So will your husband.

It is a lot for anybody to take in when their child comes forward and tells your parent something this. I think they don't believe you, because they want to believe somebody they know would do something like this. Also your their daughter and they should believe you no matter what. Hey you may be it take them a while to adjust. Maybe one day they will wake up and believe you. I don't know, but I wish that one day they will.

@LittleMissH, The way your mother treated you is wrong. And your dad's comment that he didn't know how to stop, is not true. It's possibly your dad's way of justifying to himself what happened. But a grown man does truly have the ability to choose between right and wrong, even if he had "lost the ability to stop" he chose to put himself in that situation, and hurting you. That is not something anyone can excuse or justify. I know how it feels when family does not believe you. After my dad's abuse, his entire family turned away from me over night and called me a liar. But the thing is, you know the truth. Nothing anyone says can take that truth from you. You know what happened was wrong, and that it was not your fault, it was the fault of very sick minded persons, and you can raise your beautiful baby girl and treat her the way a mother should treat her child. You can love her. It doesn't go away over night, but after some time the pain and hurt and memories get easier to live with. Because you know in your heart, that you have this beautiful daughter, she has been completely untouched by the evils in the world, and you can raise her to see the beauty in the world. I'm here if you need anything.