Sex Addiction Support Group

I am a 35 yo single woman, very attractive with nice body figure. I watched porn since 3 years old almost every week, and masturbate since 3 years old (because my sisters watched as well secretly without our parents acknowledge). Since I had a fiance, we always had an argument because I had a high sex drive and I always needed alcohol until I was drunk for me to get orgasm, or I had to watch porn before sex. When I was bored with him, sometimes I liked little SM to me or to my partner (slap and punch), or just having fun (without sex) with other woman as well which my ex fiance didn't accept it at all, but I am a straight indeed. But since I broke up, with no shy I like to ask directly men that I like to have sex with me, which can happened two times in every month. I love talking and thinking about sex everyday. I am aware I have a binge drinking problem and I tried to reduce to go to clubs and bars. All these activities have made me to loose my job, my career and my friends even my fiance. I would like to meet Mr. Right, but it seems that every time I meet someone that I am interested I always end up in bed with him so quickly because I always the one who ask and I just couldn't stop it, that of course scared men off or maybe I am being labeled too easy. Even I am looking for f**ck buddy or friends with benefit, it always end up not good because I am too complicated and too much have a high sex drive that men could not cope with it. No men can made me orgasm without alcohol talking, unless I masturbate myself. Do you think I have a problem or am I normal like other people? I really want to find Mr. Right without getting stuck with my high sex drive problem.

Hello Angel.

If it concerns you enough to come here and ask then perhaps you already know the answer. I too have masturbated since a young age, porn followed later. I began having sex at a young age as well, and I still battle with hypersexuality. The bdsm life was a huge draw, because 'vanilla' sex looses its appeal rapidly. The only advice I can offer is to ask yourself what you want to change and why it is important to you to do that. I wish you the best.

Rick

Post edited by: babeangel, at: 05/24/2011 07:50 AM

hi, honestly the way you state your case all i can suggest is to look for a professional help. it is best for you so that all your questions will resolve with a solution. good luck...

Hi thanks for your concern, when I thought I had reached my point 2 weeks ago ago when I met a younger guy (15 years younger then me) and feel disgusted after the one night stand and I thought I can stop this time. But again another one happened again yesterday, I had another sex with a married man and I always the one who ask and ask for sex until I didn't give space for him even in the bedroom, then I feel disgusted again with myself. I think I really need help since I always craving for sex and I don't care about how they feel, and turns up can't give space to anyone and made everything complicated and made me a drama queen. When I see a man that I feel attracted to it I always see them as a sex toy not as a person. When I don't get one, I always look for another one. I am sure if I want to build a healthy relationship and to love myself, I wouldn't find it if I keep doing this. I also don't want to ruin my health, thinking about all the disease, luckily I had safe sex. I have started to change my mind set and the courage to stop, but sometimes things happened again when the temptation is there which usually ruin the possibility to build a healthy relationship. If you have suggestion please let me know.