I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and ever since the beggining I have noticed he has an obsession with blowjobs. He has only had sex with 4 women but has recieved oral sex from over 10 women. It seems like he would rather recieve oral sex than have intercourse with me. All the pornography he watches is fellatio and men ejaculating on women. It's becoming a problem because I am a recovering sex addict and feel deprived when all I do is give him head. It makes it hard for me to not have wandering thoughts of other men when I am left unsatisfied. Not to mention, I was orally raped as a young teen so giving head is not the easiest thing for me to do to begin with.
The intercourse we do have is okay but I feel he is being selfish and only has sex with me to get off. There is no focus on my pleasure at all. It really hurts my feelings and makes me feel like all I am to him is a body when it comes to sex. Any advice? It would be greatly appreciated.
Hello Paloma and welcome to the forum. Many people do get fixated into one specific sex act or another. That by itself is not a sex addiction. What is an addiction is the frequency with which it is done and to what extent you are willing to go to get it.
You say you are a recovering sex addict. Do you recognize in your boyfriend similar behaviors to your own when you were addicted?
Having "an obsession" with oral sex is not necessarily an addiction, unless he is looking to get it all the time and with whomever will give it to him. You need to have a serious conversation with him to let him know your feelings on the matter.
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