Sex Addiction Support Group

Just found out that my partner has still been using phone sex despite promising me that he had stopped. I found a secret mobile phone and top up receipts dated 21 and 23 aug. I was working night shift on 22, 23 and 24 which was when he used to act out before. Giong through the phone menu, I found that he had made calls for the duration of over 2 hours!! I am still shaking now! He has gone to work and although I found the phone before he went, I did'nt let on I knew. I cannot take this anymore. He isn't trying to quit he does'nt want to. He has just become more devious than the last time i caught him. He blatantly lied to me all along and I don't want to live like this anymore. It is making me ill. If I leave him, I have a 3 yr old little boy and we have no where to go, I have no car at the moment, I will lose my job because we work opposite shifts to eachother so that one of us can be home with our son. My wages get paid into his bank. I don't see a way out of this. If i kick him out, i will still lose my job and cannot afford the rent so I will be kicked out as well, Somebody please help! What do I do now???

A violation of trust can be as damaging as a physical one. Only you know what your tolerance level is and how much you desire to save your relationship. Right now, there are only two people you need to worry about and those are YOU and your boy.

If you don't see a way out and he has refused counseling, there is little you can do. I see you have co-dependency problems as well but if you are intent on leaving, the first thing you need to do is STOP your paycheck from going into HIS account. Open a new account elsewhere BEFORE you announce to him that you and the boy are leaving.

You need to plan your exit well so stay focused and think everything through before you act.