Separation & Divorce Online Support Group

Hi! I am new to this group and just look for some good advice on how to cope with divorce and moving on. I have been seperated almost a year, req. in SC, divorce should be final by end of year. I have actually been seeing someone for 8 months and I wasn't the one who wanted the divorce. Should I feel bad for moving on so quickly? He said he did't want to try anymore.

Some good coping skills I have learned are to keep a good exercise regimen, modify my diet, avoid being alone, maintain a strong support system of objective friends and family, and stay involved with things to occupy your mind, like community/non-profits, or things that you like (I love cooking, music, and what I do for a living). I chose to see a therapist as my soon-to-be-ex-wife is bipolar which took a massive toll on my self-esteem and overall mental health, but it sounds like you've moved on quite well. I've also completely cut-off all contact with her - Facebook, emails, texting, phone, etc - even though she sends some pretty nasty emails once in a while. (Pretty ironic since she was the one who left). I throw out mail that comes to my home for her. I also chose to avoid becoming resentful. It's not worth it. I learned that the only person I have to live with the rest of my life is ME, and I like me, so why waste time?

My wife left me, so similar to you, I've been dating too, but keeping it light (she left five months ago). No expectations and just building nice, healthy foundations to explore if the 'one' is out there for me or not. I'm not trying to rebound and jump into something just for the sake of physical pleasure.