Hello everyone.
This is my first post and wanted to write this post to get everything off my chest because I am very depressed.
After 9.5 years of marriage and 14 years of being together, my wife wants to separate. It is killing me because I am still madly in love with you.
This is the toughest thing I have ever dealt with and it is killing me inside.
We have had some tough financial times lately which caused us to file for bankruptcy and lose our house. Because of the house situation, we are moving into an apartment together for the sake of our two young children.
The move is going to be hard on them and us splitting is going to be harder.
I have not been the best husband, my faults are my ADD which causes chaos in my life. I am medicated and it does help. I have never cheated, hit my wife or been abusive in any way.
She tells me it is because she is independent and that we are both at two opposite ends of everything.
The weird part is that she tells me she still loves me, this is all going to be very difficult for her too not having me by her side, not being with her all of the time.
She said that I need to work on myself, I am too content and I do what everyone else wants me to do.
I am seeing a therapist and she is helping me take myself apart, look at it and put it all back together to see where I am in life.
My wife said that she doesn't want to create false hope with us ever getting back together but maybe with the right help, you never know.
What do you think?
If I am going to win her back I need to step up and be there for her. But I can't be there if I don't have a grip on my own life, right?
I feel that she is holding onto me and doesn't want to leave me but she is so frustrated at everything that maybe her feelings are being blocked by her anger.
She says that she can't count on me because when she needs me to do something, I don't do it.
It makes things very tough.
I hope to get some feedback. Thanks
Tommy
