Self-Injury Support Group

I don't know which comes first. Anxiety (and my over-thinking of my thoughts to the death) and then I indulge in self-harm or I zone-out and shut down my emotions to self-harm and then become anxious about life progressively? Am I anxious that's why I self-harm or do I become anxious because I self-harm? Maybe both?

I'm working on letting go of things I have no control over like the past, like my parent's behavior, like my son's biological parent, etc. I'm finally learning to accept the things I can't change and quit worrying about it. Or at least, I'm starting to develop that attitude. Who knows?

Anxiety seems to be one thing but SI, for me is more because of depression.

For me its when i get triggered, when i get upset over something and the emotions is so overwhelming that it feels like my heart is actually aching. i just want to stop it, stop the pain and thats when i cut

For me it's all the anxiety that comes first and my thoughts are racing a mile a min and I need something to hyper focus on and I want some physical manifestation of the pain in my head. As sometimes it's triggered

By anxiety over feeling like I failed at something and needing to stop that anxiety and punish myself at the same

Time. So for me anxiety is definietly my trigger