Hey sweetie Listen, you have to remember, that there are those who really do not think highly of themselves, or there are specific things about themselves that they do not like. But rather then addressing these issues, it is much easier to take it out on others... It really sux when its a parent that does this - but people can be weak. It is so much easier to project their negativity on to others...makes them feel better... You just have to keep reminding yourself that HE is the one who is messed in the head. Because a good, and loving parent would NEVER treat their child as such. Tell him "Hey, I was not born to be your scapegoat. Start looking in the mirror - you are becoming a monster - and rather then face it - you instead pick on me and attack me? Are your that pathetic and weak of a human being?" "Fake it ALL you want in front of MOM...I see your true colors...and I am DONE being hurt by you. So SAVE it. You dont want to deal with me - Keep your mouth shut - Ignore me and I will ignore you. And stop faking it in front of MOM - because I am DONE covering for you." Dont know if you are religious or not - if so you can throw this in too - "And God sees what you do, hope you have a REAL good excuse come judgment..." You have to learn to empower yourself. Sure this could stir up some issues at home...but you have GOT to protect yourself from such behavior. Just because you are their child does NOT mean that you HAVE to take the abuse... And if no one is listening and stepping up to help you, then you have to help yourself. Its things like this that teach us to be strong, and at the same time, to be compassionate to others who are also suffering. I am not saying to let it slide with him...but you can have Pity for him...Pity for the miserable wretch that he is hiding inside, and punishing you for. But, at the same time, you MUST care for yourself. If you show strength, he may try to break it... But with faith in yourself...and an unwillingness to be hurt by him any more...taking a stand against him...you can break him. Eventually, when they learn that they cannot hurt you, they stop. And those who dont, you chuckle at their feeble attempts - which is a reminder of your seeing them for what they are... It comes down to choice hun. You have to choose HOW you are going to get through it. You can choose to use this kind of thing to make you stronger and better then him. Its hard, but once you start doing it...it can be very empowering. Taking back your control... Hang in there Christine [b]Group Leader Disclaimer[/b]
First and foremost - I am NOT a doctor, anything I share is based on experience & research. I strongly encourage you to discuss any and all information that I share with a health care provider.
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Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
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And I just can't keep living this way
So starting today, I'm breaking out of this cage
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I've had enough, now I'm so fed up
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