Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group

Okay folks. I want you to know that i love the kids - truly i do. I have enjoyed those evenings when everyone is home and safe and i can go to bed and hope that the house is still standing in the morning because i could hear the microwave, smell the pizza rolls and hear the friendly bickering.

NOW!!! This week, the middle kid, her hubby is back from Afganistan and they're moving her stuff. Out. The youngest has decided to move in with a friend he has known all his life and he's moving his furniture - NOW. This week, the oldest decided that she and her hubby want the baby bed at my house (for little Zachary) because ours is sturdier than theirs and he is abusing his bed. Shaking it and biting it and carrying on. sigh. OH - for that to have the impact it should you would need to know that this baby bed has been setting in the middle of my family room for overa year.

Suddenly - i am thiiiiis close to having 2 free bedrooms and a family room that visitors could enter. I can't decide whether to be sad (they're leaving) or throw a party! I gotta tell ya - i'm leaning toward the party. I actually went into one of the bedrooms and shook my poofy wrists at it. I have told all my bones and joints that this is too potentially happy for them to carry on.

No more 2am stampedes. No more broken things waiting to be discovered. No more cigarette smoke coming up from the basement. No more worrying that if we invite adults over for dinner, there will be a stampede of locusts come thru. Hubby will have an office - so - no more work papers scattered far and wide.

Dont get me wrong - it was fun doing all the school things - having the cookouts - letting them camp out in the yard but i might actually get to be queen of my house again. I am gonna paint - i don't know how but i am gonna do it. and move furniture - and CLEAN!!!

I know things happen and people move back - its already happened before but..... i am gonna enjoy this time!!!

Boy i am really rambling on here but this seems sooooo good.

Hugs to All!!! (i might even try that dancing

Hi Laura: My Wife and I went thru the same type of madness when our Grandchildren left. First we were real happy for about a week , then the quiet kicked in and we missed them something awful.

As soon as the school year ends they'll be coming to spend the summer with us and all hell breaks loose. Funny how You miss the sounds of little ones. I check off the days on our calendar daily.

Sheppie

I was lost for awhile when our last child moved out. Then we went thru helping each family thruout the years. Now, for the past several years all are settled and we have a blast (hubby and I) spending time with just us.

we are a close knit family and see have many visits from our children and grandchildren but the time hubby and I have is truly ours. One thing that is grand about grandkids is we have a ball with them and then they go home.LOL!

I do enjoy turning the extra bedrooms into "my room" and the other into hubby's computer room. Plus, after I got use to it, I love everything staying fairly neat and in order.

Post edited by: bits, at: 05/11/2010 03:36 PM

I was heartbroken when my oldest son left for college. Cried alot. Loved when he came home for weekends and went to visit him alot. The next year my younger son left for college out of state. This is when I learned how peaceful and nice having the house all to myself could be. After a couple months of both of them coming home on weekends....lol...I started wishing they'd cut back on how many weekends they were showing up.

I know, all of you are correct. Still.... the fall of 2004, our daughter went away to college. That left hubby, me and my mom (she has her own apt. we built onto our house). I'd go to work and then come dragging in and watch the Simpsons and hope that someone else fixed dinner. We would all head to our own tv's and nap in front of them, each in a different room. Summer of 2005, i retired and then the daughter moved back in, transferred to a closer university AND the granddaughter moved in. She was starting her freshman yr of h.s. Literally my step granddaughter but she seems like mine. Two yrs later, the step grandson moved in - starting his freshman year of h.s.

Today - the house already feels lighter. My middle kid and her new hubby just pulled away with the moving van. It is very quiet here. I am not going back to the 3 separate tv rooms and i am gonna use the dining room at dinner. I know the years don't quite add up. the grandson got into such trouble at the h.s. that we had to take him out and enroll him in a military setting. he has his h.s. equivalent. We're here for all of them - if they need a place, need some cash, need some support but dang it is soooooo quiet. And Camp Lejuene NC is a long way off (middle kid).

i am thinking about new pets. right now we only have one dog. one. Mom has kinda taken her over. She is such a sweet dog. A vision of dog plumpness.

Me and hubby were heartbroken when the youngest moved out but I have to be honest, it was only cause he was taking Savannah with him lol. It seems I always end up with a house full of people most of the time and I'm now so used to the house staying clean(once someone actually cleans it) and I have learned to appreciate my quiet time both alone and with Steve. When Savannah comes, she never wants to leave so more often then not she stays for an extended stay which helps my "empty nest" syndrome. We are still a very close family so my daughter, SIL, brother, etc. are never far away