Rape Support Group

I don't know how to explain it. I wasn't just "raped", it was so much more. More than I feel anyone here has been through. It was in October of 06'. My BEST friends fiance. He had me in their house for 2 days, being held prisoner to any will he had. I'm not ready to go into ANY details, feel like i won't be believed. Like anyone who went through rape never went through what i went through, and it makes me sad. I was attacked, almost killed, beaten, gang raped, tied down, and had my mind fucked with for 2 days. just, give me some feedback i guess. I'm sixteen, and pretty screwed up. I'll go into more details with the more comfort i get. Thanks....

The way you feel is very normal and many, many others have felt the same way. Your not alone and everyone will believe anything you tell us. with rape it is always "more" it totally messes up you mind, soul, spirit, everything. I suggest counseling to everyone. I'm jsut finishing up a group for sexual assualt. I was raped, several times, on different occasions and molested and abused in every way possible. It has taken a year of intensive counseling to heal. BUT I have healed. I believe everyone can find healing and put the pain in their past. It is very scarey to talk to a total stranger, your afraid they will not believe you or will blame you some how. Some one will believe you and they will not blame you. I promise you everyone here will believe you and give you all the support they can. We are all in different stages of healing. there are some of us who know healing is possible and you can have a happy, safe, wonderful life. That may sound impossible to some but I know first hand it can happen.

I have a couple of questions for you, if you don't mind. Have you told anyone?? If you are like most of us, you probably haven't. That would be my first suggestion. Find an adult that you trust and tell them. I know how scarey this is but the sooner you do the better. Where did your parents think you where for these two days? It should be easy to prove to them that you where not there. I hate saying "prove to them" but sometimes parents egnore the signs and think their little girl could never be hurt like this. Telling the police is up to you but you have to be prepared for the war that will take place afterwards. People will try to disprove what you say. Lawyers especially. what about your best friend? you can be assured he is not treating her that great, maybe even abuseing her the way he did you. Has she ever said anything to make you suspect he is abusing her? lastly, get help for you. fiind a counselor to help you with this. this is tooooooo much pain for anyone person to deal with alone. the sooner you tell someone about what happened the better for you in the long run. It make take time to find the right person to help you but it is so worth it.

ghdarnell, You are not alone, even though it feels that way. thiss guy is going to go out and do this to someone else and has already done this to no telling how many young women. he is a very sick person. There is no cure for what he has. please tell us how we can help you right now.

Susan

ghdarnell, I can relate and there are others here who can too. I was held prisoner, but not for so long, but it's the same. The fear of death is awful. I'm so sorry this happened to you. They had no right. Know that we all had that alone feeling, it's what tears you apart - the secret keeping. It's hard but letting it out and telling does relieve it and you can heal. You have your whole life before you, this happening will affect your choices, so dealing with it now you will make better choices for your future.

Ditto on the counseling, it is the best thing, but you are young and I know at that age (I was 17), it's hard to trust adults. So I'm just saying that you might not get much out of it right now, but remember to go back when you are older. Sometimes it takes several attempts. But it's worth it.

I'm guessing here but was your friend there? You wrote "their house." If so I hope she is no longer a friend and if this is happening to her and she gets out of it - well maybe - but I'd sever the relationship. How old are they? If they are over 21 you have a better case legalwise. The court is hard but I know many that have had their day in court and won do feel some closure and regaining of some of their feelings of control.

AS for counseling if you are in school they usually have counselors there and can refer you to someone. Of course they have to report it.

Lori

Everyone on this site will believe you when you're ready to tell us, hon<3.