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10/22/2008 02:42 PM
blondie93
blondie93
 
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I joined this group a while ago, but I was always too shy to post anything, but I'm ready now. My name is Marina. I'm 15 years old. I'm a sophomore in high school. I've been raped twice by two different men, but that all happened when I was twelve, so I've had a few years to cope with it. I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason and for some reason that had to happen to me. The way i look at things helps me a lot. I am a very optimistic person, so when I look back at what I've been through I just see it as an experience that has made me stronger. But regardless of how well a person can handle it, abuse still hurts. But what hurts the worst is having nobody to talk to that truly understands what it feels like to be hurt like that. That's why I really want to make friends here.
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10/22/2008 03:28 PM  Top
hiall
hiall
 
Posts: 1836
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Hi blondie93 and welcome to the group Smile

Im sorry that happened to you. You have a great attitude and you are a strong person. I look forward to reading your posts. Please PM me anytime you need to chat. Your not alone Smile

Do you need help now over the phone? call RAINN www.rainn.com (1.800.656.4673 | Free 24/7. When calling, make sure to ask if they are confidential)


Find a local crises center here:
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I am the father of a survivor

We will get through this together! Your not alone.
PM me anytime.
...............................................

I am not a doctor or a therapist but a regular person that cares and knows the importance of helping survivors.
...................................
Suicide Prevention
Lifeline: 1800-273-TALK (8255)

10/22/2008 03:29 PM  Top
rediscoveringme
rediscoveringme
 
Posts: 663
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I was raped at the age of 18. Even though a person has time to deal with it , it doesn't mean it doesn't take all the hurt away. It just means you learn how to live with what happens to you. I am like you. I see my whole life as a lesson and that things happen for a reason. I have come to the conclusion that each thing is a stepping stone that helps you prepare for something greater not worse. I have been through allot and now I am 28. I have two kids and all of my experiences have made me aware of warning signs and made me more cautious. It keeps me one step ahead.

Unfortunately when things like rape happen a world gets opened to your eyes that can't be shut again. Innocence is instantly robbed and can never be given back. YOu are right in saying its how you handle things and see the things that happen to you. I believe even though things are horrible at times you still have a desicion in the end of it all. Will it make or break you? Are you going to learn from it and survive and struggle to be the best you can be? Or are you going to never forgive yourself over something you may or may not had control over the rest of your life and wallow in self pity and never push forward. Its okay to do those things at first because your processing it but eventually in your own time a person's gotta make those descions.

I am very proud of you that you had the strength to finally share. Its very hard to do. I know because I have yet to tell my whole story. Each memory is painful and hard to come past and I have realized I have to deal with them one at a time and own the problem and not let it own me. I am proud of you that you have figured this out for yourself at such a young age. This means you'll become a wonderful person and sucssesful at your goals in life. Remember you are worth and desrve to be respected. I am happy you joined and I hope this site has helped you as much as it has me.

It often takes a breathe at a time to get through a day, next step a moment then an hour then hours then a day at a time..point is baby steps lead to big recoveries just gotta start taken them:)

10/22/2008 04:05 PM  Top
hiall
hiall
 
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wow Red that was really nice...Im proud of you to...

Im proud of both of you Smile

Post edited by: hiall, at: 11/06/2011 03:46 PM

Do you need help now over the phone? call RAINN www.rainn.com (1.800.656.4673 | Free 24/7. When calling, make sure to ask if they are confidential)


Find a local crises center here:
http://centers.rainn.org/

I am the father of a survivor

We will get through this together! Your not alone.
PM me anytime.
...............................................

I am not a doctor or a therapist but a regular person that cares and knows the importance of helping survivors.
...................................
Suicide Prevention
Lifeline: 1800-273-TALK (8255)

10/22/2008 04:34 PM  Top
dreamsofinsomnia
dreamsofinsomnia
 
Posts: 1719
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I understand. I was date raped when I was 17 by a boy i barely knew. It was my first date. I was suppose to go to a street dance in another town. My mom said she had checked it out. However my mom is very bipolar and didn't bother. THere was no street dance. He took me to another town but to his house and had his way. I didn't tell anyone for at least a year. I know i dealt with it fairly good. However you are right it don't take away the pain and it don't change the fact that there is no one else unless you find another victim that truly understands the lonliness you feel

i am proud of you coming forward

Please, please forgive me,
But I won't be home again.
Maybe someday you'll look up,
And, barely conscious, you'll say to no one:
"Isn't something missing?"

You won't cry for my absence, I know -
You forgot me long ago.
Am I that unimportant...?
Am I so insignificant...?
Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?

Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't someone missing me?

Please, please forgive me,
But I won't be home again.
I know what you do to yourself,
I breathe deep and cry out:
"Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?"

Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't someone missing me?

And if I bleed, I'll bleed,
Knowing you don't care.
And if I sleep just to dream of you
And wake without you there,
Isn't something missing?
Isn't something...

Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?



contact me on yahoo messenger under jennyleuchtman

10/22/2008 06:40 PM  Top
sisters4life

Hi Blondie and welcome to the group.

10/22/2008 08:01 PM  Top
Sunshine0826
Sunshine0826
 
Posts: 107
Member

Welcome to the group, we are all here to help.

10/23/2008 05:46 AM  Top
belinda1217
 
Posts: 1276
Senior Member
I'm an Advocate

blondie,

I was raped when I was 14 and again when I was 30.

Nothing happened to the guy when I was 14 .

But I sent the guy who raped me to prison when I was 30.

And I married one married one month after he was sentenced.To a great guy who I'm still married to.

Belinda

(a)abort (b)fail (c)retry (d)throw computer against wall
southern and proud of it.

I'm on Tegretol 1100MG a day Clonazepam 0.5 MG a day and Topamax 400MG a day.

10/25/2008 06:36 PM  Top
Lilibit58
Lilibit58
 
Posts: 1556
Senior Member

Blondie, I am really proud of you that you were able to write in to us. Getting it out of you is a big step and I know how hard that is. I was 17 so I understand from your age perspective. I too tried to think that all things happen for a reason and I relied on my faith at first. I hope you are able to keep talking when you are having a hard time with the memories. Getting it out is a big help, I didn't get help for a very long time and I feel that is why I struggle still.

Welcome to the group Smile

Lori

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