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07/28/2012 06:02 PM

Male best friend angry for not telling him

LucySchrab

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Long story short:

I am 38 years old and was raped last October by a guy I had seen a few times. I miscarried in December and ended up in the ER with depression by January.

I have not told anyone about the rape. A a few people know about the miscarriage and depression. I got really drunk the other night and texted one of my male friends whom I have known for more than 10 years. During this conversation I let it slip about the miscarriage and rape. He was furious to say the least. He was angry with me that I did not call him when it happened, and angry with me that I chose not to report it. Now he just wants to know who the guy is and where to find him. I have tried to get him to talk to me, but he just keeps ignoring me.

We are not the type of friends that spend a lot of time together, but he is like my brother and would do anything for me. Has anyone dealt with telling the people you love and what to do with their reaction. He is the only person I would feel comfortable talking to about this. He does not handle me getting hurt in anyway very well. I've decided to let him cool off for the time and just hope he will talk to me later.

Thanks

07/28/2012 06:31 PM Top

hiall

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Hello Lucy, I am really sorry about what happened to you. People take sexual assault news differently. Most are shocked and angry at what happened. If you feel comfortable talking to this person and they are ok with it then i suggest doing it. You can also talk anonymously here in the forum (is lucy your real name?. You have lots of support here. If your friend is going to help you and support you he needs to learn how to. Here is a link so some very helpful information on how to help a survivor, i recommend you both read it: http://www.capefearpsych.org/documents/Rape-mensguide.pdf

Hiall

Post edited by: hiall, at: 07/28/2012 06:32 PM

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