Rape Support Group

Hi everyone, my partner was the victim of a rape 7 years ago on the 23rd of july. The whole month of July she finds it hard to cope. She thinks the answer is to go out and get drunk. This month is becoming very stressful for both of us and is having a major impact on our relationship. I am trying my hardest to help her through the month but I can't do nothing to help her through. Can anyone help me with this in terms of something I can do to help her through the anger she is feeling and to help nurse her emotions without her thinking I'm against her, when really all I am doing is trying to get her through it while trying to deal with the damage that is being caused to our relationship as it seems no matter what I do doesn't seem to be the right thing. I love my partner with all my heart and soul, she means the world to me but I feel absolutely useless at the minute and hate seeing her going through this.

The best thing I would reccomend is stay calm. Put her first right now and realize that what's going on isn't something she is actively or consciously doing to harm you or the relationship.

There is a great article here under the article tab about how to support some going through this. Check it out.

July is my anniversary month as well and a really tough one. Be patient and don't blame, that will just make matters worse.

Hi Amadicia. Welcome to the group. I'm so sorry for what your partner has been through and what you are both going through now. Anniversaries are tough. Yes, there is an article under medicines and treatments in the group home page. Its called How to Help a Woman who has been Raped. It's written for men but has so much information for everyone in it. Has your partner been through any type of counseling? Anniversaries are so hard on us. For some reason all those memories seem to come flooding back. I think I would try to get some counseling for myself if I was you. A counselor can help you better understand what's going on and help you to know what to say to her. After you partner is done with the month maybe she could go to counseling with you or on her own to discuss what to do when July comes round again. Please hang out, use the forum to vent, heal and make new friends. You will get a lot of support here. Feel free to private message me anytime you want to talk.

clemaire

I'm sorry. I meant to say Hi Hlarrson. But I'd also like to welcome you Amadicia! Please forgive me!

No worries and nice to meet you.

Thank you very much, I will look at that page now. I hope you get through the month as best as possible x

Hello CoolLauren and welcome to the group. I am also sorry about what to your partner. Here is a link to some helpful information: http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/rape-discussions/medicine- treatments/3576442-a-mans-guide-to-helping-a-woman-who-has- been-raped

The title says a mans guide but its really for men and women...

Please private message me anytime you would like to talk.

Hiall