Rape Support Group

I got rape by my uncle for the ages of 4ever till about 12 I never told any one.because I didnt understand what was going.on and when I did I was to scared tjats people wouldnt.lot en me and wouldnt want anything.to.do with me. My parents asked me if anything.hkey ad happened but I was to scared so I said no. they had to as he was getting charged for porographic imaigies of children but obviously I said no so nothing happened. I heldyes feelings told myself nothing happened and pretended to me and everyone else nothing happened. When I was 17 I started to have panick attaks which got so.bad that I cpuldnt keep it a secret no more and told my parentso and the person I had been in a long term realsonship with. I went to the police station and and reported it all I done all my statments but the police said they didnt.have enough evidence to.charges him even though he was in prison for the seconds time for poroagraphic imaiges.

I know a years after is comong to terms with what has happened but need some surrport as I havent really jadeuchida surport from amyone. My nan has let him live back with here which has made me feel like she woulddoesnt believe me. I also have subpressed my feelings instead of deal with them. I would like some advise and none judge mental from otherso as I donte know what to do .

Xx

Welcome to the group! This is a good place to start to get some support. Are you currently seeing a therapist of any kind? That would also be beneficial for you.

I am here to answer any questions you may have. Please feel free to PM me anytime.

Hugs,

Leigha

Hello Susan1993, i am so sorry about what happened to you. I am glad you are here. This is a great place to talk to others that care and understand. You asked for advice and one of the first things i advise people to do is call RAINN. Its a great place to start looking for support and crises centers in your community. Of course you have lots of support here too.

Please use the forum to heal, vent and make new friends. Private message me anytime you would like to talk.

Hiall

Hello Susan1993: Hang in there it took a lot of nerve to do what you did and reach out.This is just a suggestion, if you have a local Rape Crisis Center give them a call.During periods when I felt overwhelmed and the rape was going to be the end for me, the crisis center gave me a human voice who was not judging me, they listened and offered support.

Im in the process of settng up some more.councerling. I had coucerling at the begin but should of stayed doing it for longer. I know it sounds stupid but I can be fine and happy for ages then all of a sudden ill feel like im back where im start all low and feeling complettly horrible. I know it sounds stupid but I forget about it and then all of a sudden something will remind me of it can be anything.. Hate the feeling the sencse no one will accept or want to.be with you or anything. :/ xx

It doesnt sound stupid to me Susan. What happened to you is horrific and shouldn't happen to anyone.

Hi Susan1993. I'm sorry for the late welcome. I agree with Hiall. You do not sound stupid. First off I want to say that I am so very sorry for what your uncle did to you all those years. You did not deserve that. When something suddenly reminds you of him and what he did to you...it's called a trigger. Like... I get triggered if I see a red SUV while I'm driving or if I have to go to a certain restaurant with friends. Half the time we don't know exactly what triggers us. The only way to really know is to write down exactly what we saw, heard, smelled, etc. at the time of the trigger. Of course we don't carry around a pen and paper to write that stuff down so sometimes it can be and feel so awful when it happens. Mostly, you feel the effects of the trigger. Like increased anxiety, headaches, even muscle pain or jaw pain and so much more depending on the person.

As Bobo24 said, just coming here to this site is a huge step in your recovery. Trust me, your not alone. There are many survivors that go for a while and live a normal life...then suddenly "boom"! Your right back to feeling the way you felt when it was happening. I'm glad your looking into going back to counseling. In the mean time we are all here for you. Know that your not alone and no one here will ever judge you! Please feel free to private message me anytime!

clemaire

Hi Susan! I'm so sorry for what has happened to you. I'm glad you are getting counseling again. You aren't stupid, you sound quite normal! Who wouldn't want to get on with their life? You are trying to find ways to cope. Are you in a safe place now?