Rape Support Group

I have been thinking a lot about telling my mom about my rape but I am not even sure how to bring it up because it has been so long. It makes me nervous to say something because I know it's going to cause a big stir in my family and I don't know if everyone will be supportive or not.

How has anyone else told others or brought it up to be talked about?

Hi Leigha83,

I remember i told my mother about my daughter over the phone. That was easier then face to face. Later when the family was together i let everyone know. That was very difficult. They were shocked. But at the same time it was a relief and now my daughter has tons of family support. So what ever is easiest for you, by phone, face to face, or write her a letter! I know other survivors have written letters and put it somewhere where there parents can find it. In this letter you can explain what happened but not in detail. Explain to them you are telling them because you need there support. It has been 10 years of you holding it in. Now its time to open that bottle up and get loving support. I know my daughter felt a lot better after telling her mother and I. In your letter (or when talking to them) you may want to give them RAINNs number so they can educate them self's on how to support you. Good luck and let =me know if i can help you. Your mom can always pm me if she needs to talk to someone.

hiall

I think I would like to talk to her face to face but I'm not sure how to bring it up..it's not just a "hey, by the way.." kind of conversation.

Go to her house when you know she is alone. Tell her you have something to say to her and that she better sit down.

Well that's easier said that done...maybe I am not ready yet.

ya, no rush..... , just do it when your ready. You will know when its the right time.

Post edited by: hiall, at: 06/03/2012 05:27 PM

WHen I decided to tell my mother about some of the things that had happened, I told her that I needed to talk to her about something important and needed to find a time when I could have her undevoted attention. HTat way she was aware that there was something up and she could set aside time to deal with it. Not that she wound up hearing anyything because before I could tell her anything specific, she informed me that what she already knew was all that had happened and anything else that I think might have happened was just my overactive adult imagination. Since that, I have not even thought about talking to her about anything.

Brenda