Rape Support Group

Post edited by: Christina11, at: 04/17/2012 03:55 AM

I am so, so sorry. What you have gone through is terrible and should not be experienced by anyone! You did not ask for or deserve it in any way, none of those assaults. It doesn't matter that you were drinking, the choice to hurt you was entirely his.

There is so much more to say, but first could I ask you to please edit the title of your post to include the word "trigger"? It is good that you can be so clear, it helps to get it out, even though is scary.

One thing I want to say, is that having sex involves free choice between two parties. You were assaulted; your choice was taken away by that actions of another person. Please know that you do not need to feel ashamed. You didn't do anything wrong. Your feelings are normal, however, so keep that in mind too.

Rapists make terrible choices, but they are human, not supernatural. Nothing they do can lessen your value as a human being or take away your soul. They try mightily but they can't re-write reality. What is happening is that parts of yourself, a large part of yourself, is wounded and in hiding. You will not ever be the same, but you can heal from this. You are still in every way a precious human being worthy of love and respect ALL THE TIME.

Again, please don't take me to mean that your feelings are wrong. Feelings are important; they tell us that something is wrong and needs our attention. Do you have access to any women's shelters? If you need a trained advocate to talk to (I am not a trained advocate) then consider visiting the RAINN website, there is a number there to talk to someone anonymously and confidentially, or you can do an online chat that is also anonymous and confidential.

www.rainn.org

Hello Christina11and welcome to the group. I am really sorry about what happened to you. These people that hurt you should be locked up. No one deserves to be raped. There is nothing wrong with going out and having a good time with your friends. This was absolutely not your fault.

You can private message me anytime, i am a trained advocate.

If you prefer talking to a female i suggest private messaging Izzy or Clemaire. they are group leaders here in the forum. Or, try getting getting a hold of an advocate through RAINN like izzy suggested.

Please let us know how we can help you.

Your not alone.

Hiall

Hello Christina11. We share the same name. Welcome to the group. I can only reiterate what Hiall and Izzy said. You were not punished for going out to have a good time. Who wouldn't want to in a different country?! I know I did when I visited Europe for the first time. These men are predators. I'm sure that they love going after foreigners due to their lack of experience in the country. No one deserves what you have been through. How much longer do you have there? I'm worried about these asshole rapists or others wanting to take advantage of you. I just can't tell you enough that none of your actions deserved rape. Everyone should be able to feel safe in the world! I understand your loss of trust in men and everyone else. I had lost my trust in the world before I started therapy. All your feelings are valid and justified. It's hard not to blame ourselves at first but eventually you will only blame the evil of these men. I'm so very sorry for everything you've gone through. Feel free to PM me anytime!

clemaire

Post edited by: Christina11, at: 05/25/2012 07:42 AM