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Happy New Year! In the Western sense anyway, lol.

Do you have any New Year's resolutions?

I have two small ones. I need to better define one of them, which will hopefully make it easier to accomplish.

One, I will take a walk daily. This is important because otherwise it's very easy for me to just sit indoors during the week and I fear I will meld into the couch eventually. Also good for my two-year-old and my mother's two dogs, who will be accompanying me.

Two, I will do my darndest to limit my kids' screen time to less than two hours a day. This will be supremely difficult! But I am determined. Part of this goal is to read to my kids more often. Vague, and needs improvement...I already read them a bedtime story but I want to work out a routine during the day that allows for more reading.

Thanks and Happy New Year to you too. I don't make new year resolutions. I have to set goals all the time and try to achieve them. I'm still working on losing weight, building the confidence to deal with looking for a new job, working on my depression and getting through all these boxes of stuff I have.

Happy 2012! My resolution is to let things slide off my back instead of letting them touch me in a way that hurts and keeps me angry or upset all the time. My other one is to start yoga again. I always use excuses like not enough money when I know I can do this at home. I received a really nice beach cruiser for Christmas and want to ride at least 3 times a week especially with the weather being in the 70s in January!

I'm so bad at setting goals I try to use New Year's as an excuse. I always go small though, never big things because I just lose sight so quickly.

Oh Clemaire, I miss yoga so much!!! I should just start doing a daily schedule and allow time for that too..that would help with my other goals as well..

if its hard to keep goals... try writing in a journal every night. First write the date at the top of the page and your goals right underneath. Write things down that you need to get done that week. Each night check things off. Write something nice about your self..

dreams... write how your going to deal with this bad dream that keeps coming up.. take notes about the dream and write down ideas of how u want to change the dream, or keep it from coming up again.....

My resolution is to get back in shape. Lose 15 lbs by April.. im 220.8 right now in shorts and shirt.

Post edited by: hiall, at: 01/05/2012 08:42 PM

If i have any resolutions for 2012 it would be to 1) gain 5-10 pounds (I'm 15 underweight so gotta get

my weight up) and to get horses back in my life. I started riding when I was 8 and continued through my first 2 years of college but life

got in the way. I miss it so much and I am so much happier when i have that outlet. Also i know I'm gonna have to make some big post

Graduation decisions so my final resolution is to really listen to myself and choose what I want to do for

Me and no one else.

Those are excellent resolutions! I wonder though, is it affecting your health to be underweight? Except when I'm pregnant I'm always at least 15 lbs underweight and it used to bother me but it's one of the things I've worked on where I just try to listen to what my body needs and don't focus on numbers at all...part of learning to love myself the way I am instead of always having this "ideal other" in my head.

Now that I think on it though I think if I were more toned and/or worked out the muscle mass might just make up the weight difference so I COULD be healthier AND gain weight lol.

As long as you are eating right, then being underweight shouldn't have any effect on your health. Some people just have really high metabolisms and cannot gain weight no matter how hard they try. Wish I were that way.

As to resolutions for myself, to finish out school and get a good job, and to stop going overboard when I do things. I tend to be an all or nothing person and need to stop that.

Brenda

everyone has such good resolutions! the weight thing is weird, some of it is tied to what happened and then some of it is just i am naturally very petite. Im 21, 4'6 and 72 pounds, technically i should be around 85 but my doctor isn't too concerned. my parents want me to gain the weight, my friends want me to stop using food as a punishment. its complicated.

inrepair, while I was with my abuser I withheld food from myself to punish myself. It was a version of self-harm because I hated the way I looked and he used it against me all the time. So while I am naturally thin, I became thinner, hated myself for it, didn't eat, etc..it was a terrible cycle. I did not keep it up for too long though I was scared that something would happen and I would have to get medical help and everything would be exposed. I don't know if you can relate to that at all...but numbers, they don't mean anything. Listening to and loving your body the way it is, that's the truth there. You are beautiful.