Rape Support Group

Hi All,

I am looking for your support on my current situation. I was informed last night that one of my cousins raped his sister. My cousin is 12 and his sister is five. His sister has been changing her story around but her brother is sticking to his and he is consistenly saying that he didnt rape her.

I dont know what to do. should I call the authorties and get child protective services involved.?

I dont know who to believe but I doubt it if a 5 year girl would lie about being forced down on the bed and raped by her brother.

Post edited by: ConcernedUncle, at: 12/29/2010 07:06 AM

Of course I would take this seriously. It could also echo psychological problems surrounding the male involved.. he too, could also have been abused at a young age and their may be a backstory.

I would speak quietly and express your concerns to the parents of the children. Explain to them to speak with the girl in an undaunting way, just so she explains exactly what happened. Reporting this incident means that the boy will be placed under Young Offenders, but he may also need counselling and may open up passages to his own experiences which need sorted out.

Please do not keep this to yourself.

I agree this needs to be reported. This is a very serious situation and it can not be ignored. The little boy must have underlying issues and he needs serious help. The little girl will also need counseling she has been through trauma and the sooner she is treated the better. I know this is a difficult situation but it needs to be addressed with the parents and the authorities.

I would talk to the parents about it definitely.

If the 5 year old sticks to her story about being raped I'd called CPS. You have to remember the child is 5 years old.

Belinda

Hi,

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I agree with you, a 5 yr old is highly unlikly to lie about something like that. I take it you have talked to the parents? I would think she needs a complete examination. That will tell one way or the other. If the parents don't agree to that, then I say call the police. They have the right to take her to the hospital and get any physical evidence, or not. The 5 yr olds best interest has to be the priority. I am not a proffessional, but I come from a family of law enforcement. Unfortunatly, I had a similar situation with my best friend of 10 yrs. Found out he had molested his 6yr old neice. So honestly, my heart goes out to you. Somebody has to put that baby girl 1st! If you need to talk, I'm here anytime.

JJ

Well, I can give a little persective. I was raped at 5 and if someone was questioning me I would have changed my story around to 1) avoid getting into trouble or 2) embarassment as I thought it was my fault. A five year old does not have the mental capability to come up with a lie about sexual contact. They will matter of factly tell you they were playing doctor and what went where if that is all it was. But if they are cohersed or intimidated during the touching, they will try to hide it because there is shame involved. they would not use the word rape either. That word is not in a normal five year olds vocabulary.

The situation needs to be turned over to some form of authority. Child protective services or the police. Sometimes when you tell parents, they hide it. And that helps no one. If the child was really abused it says to her that there is not help for her when parents do nothing.

How old are you? If you are a public school student inform a school counselor. They are required by law to act and investigate. If your older call the local child protective services. You can usually make the report annoymously.

Bless you for being concerned. Many just look the other way.