Post Traumatic Stress Support Group

I am the mother of a 17 year old daughter; who has both PTSD and bipolar. As a mother I am lost and confused in how to help her with them.

She was raped by a former friend of the family when she was 6, and at 15 (almost 16) she was the sole suvivor of a triple homocide. Wrong place wrong time... To top it off she has a 29 yr. old boyfriend, who her father and I can't stand. He is very manipultive, but she doesn't see it, even thoug her father and I do.

I need friends, love and support to help her. I get so frustrated.

Post edited by: AngelBelieve66, at: 11/21/2010 04:02 PM

AngelBelieve66: Welcome to the group. You and your daughter have been through so much and im sorry that you have. No one deserves to see that or go through it. You will find lots of hope and support here and no judgement. Your daughter is young and deserves a chance to have a normal beautiful life and for you to have no fear. We are a very close family here and care for each other and what we and you are going through. Read a few post and join in when you feel comforable. Can't wait to hear from you. Again welcome.

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

Angelbeleiver. So sorry that your daughter has been through so much. We here have a lot of understanding and compassion. THere is also a bi polar dealing with ptsd and a parents with bi polar children group.e is a teen bi polar group as well. I know there is a rape, teen rape, sexual abuse and teen sexual abuse group here that she, you and your husband would all be welcome to join. You can never have too much suport in a time of need. We are all here for you. Feel free to pm me anytime. Welcome to the group and site.

Brenda

AngelBelieve66: You have made the right decision to come to MDJ. In this group, we are friends and family who do our best to support others. We talk together, we laugh together and we cry together. We're here to support you and your family in anyway that we can and to help you in anyway we can. There are other groups that you and your husband could join and also groups that your daughter can join, so check it out. You can jump into the middle of it all and start talking at the start or you can sit back and read other posts in the group; whatever you wish to do is entirely up to you. We won't force you to talk to us until you are comfortable in doing so. The best thing about MDJ is you don't have a therapist ot director of a group and you can feel much, much more comfortable and say anything you wish. Welcome to the PTSD support group, and believe me you have come to the right place. I know for a fact it has helped me in the last 6 months because I finally have someone who can understand what is going on with me as far as the PTSD is concerned. Please feel free to send me a personal message anytime you like. We're all here to help you. Again, welcome to the group. Midget53

We as complex post traumatic stress disorder, which is more then one event, don't have an understanding for the normal world because our trauma has change us so and broke a part of our brain into puzzle peices that seem to take forever to find the peices. Some we will not find.

She needs to feel a sense of justice in her life since she had none, and part of a sexual abuse survivor, feeling worthless, dirty, ashamed, and guilty, are probably within her.

It takes awhile to get over that and going through therapeutic help and possibly getting medication, which if she is still fighting the past, she may not want.

We feel no control, but can refuse someone trying to control us through medication.

Sometimes going through a period of just trying to self medicate happens alot.

Witnessing a traumatic event, is extremely shocking to the brain, the same area of the brain where the shattered part is due to the rape. Once again she had no control, and felt helpless, then just the witnessing of such violence, which I am way too familar with, give survivors guilt and array of other problems. Again there was injustice, and again she will be hypervigilant not to allow it to happen again. As well as part of her mimicing what she went through by being with negative people. It's a reenactment, that she doesn't even know she is doing. It's part of c-ptsd, and alot of people do this behavior.

Is she ready to seek psychological help? If not, maybe if she reads information on it, she may start to want to get help.

Here is a good page to look at, I just yahoo searched what is c-ptsd, you can also look up what is ptsd, or just the name, so here is this one:

http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/printFriendly/ 3020

and this one is for the major depression that comes with it:

http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/major_depression.htm

there are many sites to find out information by google or yahoo, I like yahoo better.

The more you arm yourself with knowledge, just like us, the better you are armed with tools.

Hopefully you can get her to read some information.

We are here,,,,,,

dd

she is recieving psychological help and the rest of the family is in counseling to learn how to help her and to deal with it her issues in our own lives

ok you already answered my question in Grrrrr, how is she handling the therapy?

And btw, I wish I had a mother figure who is doing all that you are doing. Bless you so so so much.

She does great in therapy till she talks to or is around him. I wish she appreciated all I'm doing. Someday....Maybe...

Oh she will. Can you maybe get her on here??? Besides Ptsd, there is a group of child abuse, she may feel better there, and depression, or some type of aggression group, you'll have to look, I know they have an anxiety group.

Ptsd, encompasses a most other mental disorders, and it is random, with no rhythm, that is why it is so frustrating for us, especially when it first starts to show its ugly face.

It is so frustrating for her, she doesn't know all the tools she has available to her.

You are a wonderful mother, I can see that. I had the mother from hell. Now she is more decent. But I will never love her, due to all the parts she played in my past.

The one thing your daughter has, is you.

Was any type of justice done for her concerning the pedophile?

Post edited by: ductydawn, at: 11/22/2010 05:07 PM