Post Abortion Support Group

I recently had an abortion, not really sure what im suppose to feel. Right now, feeling a little numb. i know it was the right decision for my current situation, but i think that deep down, i wanted my baby.

This has been harder cause i havent really gotten support from my boyfriend. I think he may be having a hard time with it, but wont talk to me about what he's feeling. He really hasnt asked me how im feeling, if i need anything, or wanted to be around me. He's been going out with his friends or not being attentive when he is with me. Maybe he doesnt care? or the situation affected him more than what he thought? I dont know.

Anyways, im really having a hard time and im feeling alone. No support, nothing.

kalliann, numbness may indicate a stage of grieving. Don't put too much pressure on yourself right now to 'feel' anything. Just take care of yourself and eventually you'll be able to sort out what you feel. And, you will probably go through a lot of emotions. Also, give your boyfriend some room, too, to sort out what he's feeling. Eventually all the uncertainty will clear. At some point you may want to look into counseling so you can sort things out. You're not alone...I've walked in your shoes. You'll get through. Just be patient w/yourself.

I was numb also after mine. For a couple of months, I pretended everything was okay, and then I just broke. My husband responded similar to your bf. And I can honestly say that not talking about the big pink elephant in the room didnt make it go away, it made it grow.

You need to talk to your bf about how you are feeling, how he is feeling, and work on things together. If not its just going to cause a bigger rift in your relationship. Its hard enough to heal as a couple after this. Its much harder when you cant talk about it with your partner, and you dont know what he is feeling. Communication is key. If you dont communicate, by the time you try to do soemthing to fix your relationship, counseling or whatever, it may just be too late to fix.

Best wishes,

B

it sounds like ya'll both are grieveing your own ways. he is running away from it. give him time. my man and me dont talk about it. if i bring it up it turns into an argument. he couldnt rebel with his friends we both dont have many. we just left it alone.everyone is different. he shouldnt just forget that he still has a relationship with you though and that means alot.