Self Esteem & Positive Thinking Support Group

Hi everyone:

I'm new to the group. I just left an emotionally abusive relationship after 15 years. I have left and gone back many times. I am determined that I'm never going back again. I realize that I have very low self esteem and that's what got me into this relationship and why I stayed so long. I just don't know how to go about rebuilding my self esteem so that I can move on and have a happy life.

Lucy 134

welcome to the group lucy.We have to know a little bit more about you, your personality and the man you left to help you.

warm welcome .

kisses

christine

Welcome to the group. i think you are a very brave person to leave a relationship youve been in so long. but it has to be nice for you to get a new beginning and all

A little more about me. I'm 48 years old. I've always struggled with self confidence since childhood. This was my second marriage, my first ended not because of abuse but because we were both teenagers. My second husband was very controlling. We always lived as far away from my family as he could possibly get me. I don't drive, so I was dependent on him to get me everywhere. He always made sure we lived in places with no public transportation. He didn't want me to socialize with anyone outside of work. He listened while I was on the phone, was verbally abusive and sometimes physical pushing etc. For a long time I felt as if it was better to be with someone even if it was bad then to be alone. I want to work on my self esteem so that I don't go back and so that I can move forward in my life and not repeat the same patterns.

Lucy134

Dear Lucy134,

My heart goes out to you. I get emotionally abused a lot in my life, and I feel it is the worse kind of abuse. I send you major hugs and want you to know that you can PM me if you want too. Brendy

Hi lucy . So think you have no kids as he doesn't want to share you ? of course think you have to leave him definitely to be free and have a r self esteem . Christine

Hi Christine:

I do have 1 child but he's from my first marriage as a teenager. He is grown up and didn't live with us the only way I got to see him was he would visit me at work. I know that leaving him is the right decision and you're right it's the only way I will be able to build my self esteem.

Lucy134

Lucy134

Change of any sort is hard and you are brave to take the steps that you must to take back your life and most importantly form a relationship with your son. Your husband sounds like a real jerk. I am behind you 100%. Sara

hi lucy and sarah,

Lucy i think your marriage was only based on fear, seems he did not allowed you anything and you were just a prisoner for him.

life going to be better for you and your son now, even if as saralaurie said change could be hard.

kisses

christine

Hello Lucy,

welcome to the group.

Belinda