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02/25/2012 09:31 AM

7 Ways to Heal Your Childhood Trauma

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7 Ways to Heal Your Childhood Trauma

Children are often viewed as highly resilient and able to bounce back from just about any situation, but traumatic experiences in childhood can have severe and long-lasting effects well into adulthood if they are left unresolved. Childhood trauma can result from anything that makes a child feel helpless and disrupts their sense of safety and security, including: sexual, physical or verbal abuse; domestic violence; an unstable or unsafe environment; separation from a parent; neglect; bullying; serious illness; or intrusive medical procedures.

If you're living with the emotional and psychological consequences of a traumatic childhood, there is hope. Here are seven ways to heal your childhood trauma and reclaim your life.

1. Acknowledge and recognize the trauma for what it is. Victims of childhood trauma often spend years minimizing the event or dismissing it by pretending it didn't happen or by succumbing to feelings of guilt or self-blame. The only way you can begin healing is to acknowledge that a traumatic event did occur and that you were not responsible for it.

2. Reclaim control. Feelings of helplessness can carry well over into adulthood and can make you feel and act like a perpetual victim, causing you to make choices based on your past pain. When you're a victim, the past is in control of your present. But when you've conquered your pain, the present is controlled by you. There may always be a battle between past and present, but as long as you're willing to let go of the old defenses and crutches you used as a child to navigate your trauma, you will be able to reclaim control of your life now and heal your pain.

3. Seek support and don't isolate yourself. A natural instinct that many trauma survivors have is to withdraw from others, but this will only make things worse. A big part of the healing process is connecting to other people, so make the effort to maintain your relationships and seek support. Talk to a trusted family member, friend or counselor and consider joining a support group for survivors of childhood trauma.

4. Take care of your health. Your ability to cope with stress will increase if you are healthy. Establish a daily routine that allows you to get plenty of rest, eat a well-balanced diet and exercise regularly. Most importantly, stay away from alcohol and drugs. These might provide temporary relief but will inevitably increase your feelings of depression, anxiety and isolation and can worsen your trauma symptoms.

5. Learn the true meaning of acceptance and letting go. Just because you accept something doesn't mean you're embracing your trauma or that you like it or agree with it. Acceptance means you've decided what you're going to do with it. You can decide to let it rule your life or you can decide to let it go. Letting go doesn't mean “poof!” it's magically gone. Letting go means no longer allowing your bad memories and feelings of a bad childhood to rob yourself of living a good life now.

6. Replace bad habits with good ones. Bad habits can take many forms, like negativity and always mistrusting others, or turning to alcohol or drugs when feelings become too hard to bear. Bad habits can be hard to break, especially when they're used as crutches to help you avoid reliving the pain and trauma of your childhood. A support group or a therapist can help you learn the tools necessary to break your bad habits and replace them with good ones.

7. Be patient with yourself. When you've been seriously hurt as a child you develop out-of-control emotions, hopelessness, defense mechanisms and warped perceptions that are difficult to let go of. It will take a lot of time and hard work to let go of these feelings. Be patient with yourself and honor your progress, no matter how small it may seem. It's the little victories in your recovery that will eventually help you win the battle of healing your childhood trauma. childhood-trauma/


02/28/2012 06:12 AM
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Great Post Clara--

This is one of the things I learned in therapy...

If you don't deal with your children issues, they will trigger in your adult life.

For example: Say, if you were having an arguement with someone and it appears that your are getting really mad and you start to yell..and you start reacting even more then that....

Guess what I learned.....that person has triggered a past event, and since you never handled is coming out even worse...

With all of this being said, once you deal with your children problems, life will not seem that bad...

Statements such as, "I hate people, they are so rude." This will go away..



02/28/2012 07:53 AM
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is trying to control what is last said a sign of being insecure? i think just wanting to will it to stop is a little hard, mostly if we are under meds to control our emotions, the meds seem to put all past memories on hold.Blush

Post edited by: lken, at: 02/28/2012 07:54 AM

02/29/2012 09:18 AM
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Thanks Clarita for sharing. what happen during childhood really affected self esteem and thoughts. Will really need time to build self esteem and change negativity.

Best wishes to you.

with metta



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